He isn’t even homeless. He lives in an RV or something in his girlfriend’s mom’s driveway and does nothing but smoke fetty and suck all the air out of this community, making it harder for people like me who actually fucking need money. And he sends his girlfriend out to collect recycling and panhandle all night, alone. He’s an absolute piece of shit to her. He is an absolute piece of shit. Stop sending him money.
It makes me so fucking angry how I have to beg and plead to get sent anything, while he’s apparently getting sent hundreds of dollars. I remember once one of his posts was even pinned for a while. What the fuck?
P.S. Technically BaileyDee is his girlfriend’s account, but of course he doesn’t let her use it. You can tell it’s him posting.
They asked for more (over double what I gave) money the day after I gave some. Like I do what I can when I find a tiny bit of cash to spare but things like this make me think I’ll just go back to cooking and distributing meals to the unhoused locally. At least then I can be pretty certain the person is really in need. Fucking sucks eroding trust like that.
Yeah. It sucks, and erodes trust in the mutual aid network as a whole when people do things like that. I try to remember that just because one person is trying to exploit other people’s empathy, doesn’t mean everyone else in the network is. Though stuff like this can absolutely make people just leave a mutual group entirely.
They also sent me another request for money directly overnight. While all this has been happening, with the exact same message as last time. No reaction to what I’ve posted about them here. So either they haven’t seen this discussion at all, or they think they can just ignore it. I don’t want to start throwing more direct insults around.
But my opinion has shifted from “they should explain themselves” to “They’re lazily using a claimed medical emergency to bilk money out of people.” Every other “frequent flyer” poster here is giving us updates and asking for specifics, sometimes even “selfish” stuff (though self-care isn’t selfish.) it feels like a snapshot into a person’s life. But this account has always been having the same medical emergency every time. And the fact that they continue to need “food money” hours after people have actively given them that money, makes me think they are just scamming the mutual aid network.
It is ultimately the mod’s decision, but in my opinion, if this person is allowed to keep doing this, they will end up destroying the mutual aid comm.