An American woman I know was angry and referred to a gay couple as “queens”. I raised it, she is straight cis and says the word is fine in America. I’m in the UK and it’s not ok here unless you’re lgbt yourself (and even then plenty wouldn’t like it).
Can anyone advise?
Yeah, as an American (the South, even) I can tell you that somebody angrily calling a gay couple queens if she is not herself part of the LGBTQIA+ community would not generally be something accepted here. It is a term many queer people embrace for themselves, but is still often used as a slur by an aging populace and not something a straight cis person should say.
Yes that’s what I thought, plus when she said it, it just felt nasty