I’m afab and if the surgery was possible for turning what I have into a fully functioning dick, I would have done it by now.

Basically I’m comfortable with my perceived gender, I just wish how I see myself mentally when I think about sex, matched up to what I’ve got in my pants. I’ve felt this way since I was a young teenager too, so it’s not a phase or a fetish, it’s how I’ve wanted to present sexually for most of my life.

Does this disconnect I’m talking about just fall under the non-binary trans umbrella? Or is it a seperate thing?

Are there any other people here who feel this way?

(Phalloplasty does not appeal to me. The surgery is brutal, it doesn’t look right (to me) when it heals, it isn’t functional how I would want it to be, and it isn’t sensitive like a dick.)

  • Aksamit@slrpnk.netOP
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    2 days ago

    Let me know if it worked. Either way though, I’m open to answers on what I asked from anyone who sees this as it’s an interesting question.

    Anatomy does not define gender, so is it still gender euphoria if it’s not about the gender, but the anatomy?

    • ToastedCoconuts@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      20 hours ago

      I got your message, but I can’t seem to get the reply through.

      Here’s what I wrote back:

      I think you get to define that the way that fits best. Calling it gender euphoria can be understandable by a large audience. We called medical treatments “gender affirming” when they were still gate-kept for cis people. Breast reconstruction or testicle implants, laser hair removal, and hormones for elder individuals, for just a small list. But, let me challenge the idea in a different way. If a person loses a body part that is intrinsically linked to how they experience, or want to experience the world, what should we call it when they can get that function back? A cis man who has surgery to return function to his penis could feel gender euphoria. I actually know someone who had an adult circumcision who explained it that way. On the other hand, an amputee can experience euphoria when they’re able to hold their child again, or a hearing impaired child when they hear their mother’s voice for the first time. Plastic surgery often has the same effect.

      For me, I feel dysphoric about the female parts of my body, despite the fact that I’m still fem presenting. And likely always will be. It’s my body that’s wrong, not my presentation. So, I think for me it is gender euphoria even tho I don’t have a gender in my head