• ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
    36·
    2 days ago

    Reminder, that porn addiction was made up by evangelists to push the narrative, that porn is always bad and must be banned.

    This narrative, alongside with the rampant sexism and transphobia, caused a tremendous harm to my psyche, a lot more than what porn actually caused to me in my whole life (sore frenulum, and maybe that time could have been “spent better”). Humans are naturally hard wired to need it, unless they’re aces, and similarly to those who are not as much into it, there are those who need sexual things much more.

    • da_cow (she/her)@feddit.org
      23·
      2 days ago

      Porn addiction is as real as any other addiction, however it is not like you are getting hooked on porn after seeing one titty for a single frame.

      • SpaceCadet@sopuli.xyz
        12·
        2 days ago

        Anything that provides pleasure and triggers the reward center of the brain can be addictive. There’s no need to single out porn in that discussion.

        • SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          4·
          1 day ago

          Bingo. Just like video games, television/movies, work, collectibles, exercise, and house pets, any activity can become problematic, but it’s not the activity itself that’s the problem. The issue is the underlying pathology that drives someone to unhealthy levels of engagement.

          It just occurred to me how willing society is to overlook problematic behavior if it’s “productive”. 80 hours a week working or making art? Likely to be accepted. 80 hours a week spent collecting figurines or working on your train set? Whoa there, crazy conductor!

      • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
        11·
        2 days ago

        Even if we assume that porn/sex can be addictive, maybe it could create some habitual type situation, there are still these issues:

        1. Other non-chemical addictions such as gambling are not being near as close stigmatized, only video gaming comes kind of close, and only because the very same people can blame mass shootings on it.
        2. A lot of non-chemical addictions can be overcome with the smallest of willpower. A week later I deleted Xitter from my phone I barely checked the desktop version too, and I only have Facebook because family and friends. My country Hungary made tens of thousands of gamblers quit after they banned slot machines from pubs (rare Fidesz W, even if done to drive people into casinos).
        3. Even actual chemical addictions like tobacco and alcohol is sidelined, if not outright encouraged, because “muh nashunal treshurs” like in Hungary.
        4. Porn addiction is often described as just as bad if not worse than cocaine, as a scare tactic. I’m a habitual consumer of porn, but there were times I could not get access to it and were fine, and the times I wasn’t fine was due to I couldn’t masturbate at all (which nowadays includes anal masturbation too), and it just seems like I have a higher drive than what other guys should have.
  • Wilco@lemmy.zip
    20·
    2 days ago

    People can get addicted to anything. People literally get addicted to water and drink so much it dilutes the sodium in their body.
    If you are going to ban porn because one freak spanks his monkey nonstop then you need to ban water as well because people can actually die from those reduced sodium levels … but won’t die from a monkey spanking porn marathon.

    • Sabata@ani.social
      8·
      2 days ago

      I hear oxygen is toxic and dissolves you from the insides. We should ban that too.

      • Wilco@lemmy.zip
        2·
        10 hours ago

        All of the people that breathe oxygen have died or will die … thus oxygen breathing is 100% fatal as well as addictive … BAN NOW!

    • skisnow@lemmy.caEnglish
      101·
      3 days ago

      and also pay for it to be Promoted

      Either he’s selling something, or his wife made him do it

    • Wispy2891@lemmy.worldEnglish
      10·
      2 days ago

      Because that guy is scamming other people to sell a course “how to quit porn” for thousands of dollars

    • ALoafOfBread@lemmy.ml
      13·
      3 days ago

      Wouldn’t you rather hire a guy who you know paid to tell people he isn’t cranking his hog to pictures of fat tiddies?

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
        13·
        3 days ago

        Depends on his reasoning. If it’s to sexually repress himself for religious or pseudo science reasons then no I wouldn’t.

          • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
            10·
            3 days ago

            Maybe. I don’t care. I’m just giving my opinion not actually making a hiring decision. I don’t want to work with religious nutjobs. If your god doesn’t want you to partake in your natural bodily functions they designed maybe you should consider if they’re actually worth your worship and stop feeling guilty for physical sensations you can’t control.

            • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
              1·
              3 days ago

              Sex is okay within marriage. Just like how cutting is okay if it’s a vegetable and not a human being.

              • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
                10·
                3 days ago

                Sex is okay within marriage.

                It’s okay out of marriage too. It’s a natural act that brings a lot of happiness to people. Unless you buy into a religion that makes you feel shame for something your body is made to do.

                Just like how cutting is okay if it’s a vegetable and not a human being.

                I don’t even understand how this is supposed to relate to having sex out of wedlock.

                • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
                  1·
                  3 days ago

                  Having sex is a natural act. Just like chopping meat. But there’s a moral way to do things.

    • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      6·
      3 days ago

      Is this not a mocking meme with that adulterous couple (a ceo and HR manager) that got discovered at a Coldplay concert? It looks just like them to me but I’m faceblind so I might be wrong…?

  • socsa@piefed.socialEnglish
    43·
    3 days ago

    Translation: I jerk off in the bathroom at work because that’s the only place my wife can’t catch me.

    • Psythik@lemmy.world
      15·
      2 days ago

      I legit feel bad for people who can’t enjoy porn with their significant other. The sex must be awful.

      • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
        12·
        2 days ago

        Idk man, my SO needs porn to have a plot to enjoy it and I’m just not prepared to consider the motivation of the actors and actresses on the screen and get lost in the story. That doesn’t mean we don’t still know how to enter each other’s cheat codes, we don’t need visual aids for that.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      27·
      3 days ago

      Always has been. It always felt like a Christian beachhead into internet culture, very reminiscent of church run queer aa groups, but like, the kind where they wind up trying to get you to join because you enjoy socializing at gay bars.

      • Rothe@piefed.socialEnglish
        8·
        2 days ago

        It always felt like a Christian beachhead into internet culture

        That is because it was. So much internet bro culture is deeply rooted in US religious nuttery.

    • .Donuts@lemmy.worldEnglish
      68·
      3 days ago

      Yeah the self censoring is fucking crazy. We’re on this platform to escape that bullshit, and then it still comes fucking back?

      That’s ass. The picture itself doesn’t even censor the word.

        • doomcanoe@piefed.socialEnglish
          5·
          3 days ago

          The reactions people on the internet have make me laugh.

          Used to be that swearing asserted my right to free self expression. But now I live in bizzaro world, where self-censoring is considered “uncouth behavior”, so I occasionally enjoy censoring my swears just to reassert my right to free self expression.

          The fact the people get upset about it is kind of hilarious.

          • .Donuts@lemmy.worldEnglish
            19·
            3 days ago

            It’s considered stupid because it’s catering to big Capitalism and their platforms like TikTok that mess with your views because you are using controversial words.

            So it’s expected to meet some resistance when you’re on Lemmy.

            • doomcanoe@piefed.socialEnglish
              3·
              3 days ago

              100% agree.

              I just have a chip on my shoulder about being made to speak in any particular way. So since I’m on Lemmy…

              • Klear@quokk.auEnglish
                6·
                2 days ago

                Nobody will care if you self-censor in a reasonable way, like simply not saying the word, or using euphemisms like goshdarn.

                But writing f*ck is ridiculous

                • doomcanoe@piefed.socialEnglish
                  1·
                  2 days ago

                  Yeah, sure, but that’s exactly the point, the group is trying to dictate my free speech based on what they considered offensive. And not even for something significant like promoting violence or hate speech, just over the placement of an *. So I don’t really care if saying f*ck is ridiculous, nor do I care if saying fuck is considered unnecessary, nor any of the other litany of ways people try to control the free speech of others.

                  I get that this is a very unpopular opinion on Lemmy, but honestly I don’t give a f*ck.

          • zarkanian@sh.itjust.works
            8·
            3 days ago

            This is like those people who argue that it’s really punk to be conservative, because “woke” is mainstream or something.

            • doomcanoe@piefed.socialEnglish
              4·
              3 days ago

              I’ll grant that it’s contrarianism for its own sake. But I would disagree with the comparison.

              The core value of expressing myself how I choose is being upheld by my (albeit asinine) contrarianism.

              The core values of Punks on the other hand can not be boiled down to simple contrarianism or an “anti-mainstream” ideology. And frankly the “anti-woke” Conservative movement is damn near the polar opposite of Punk values. So co-opting the term “Punk” just to make Conservatism sound rebellious/edgy/cool undermines the point of both world views.

              Also, being “anti-woke” sucks @$$, while not letting people tell me how to talk F*#ks hard.

  • flop_leash_973@lemmy.world
    47·
    3 days ago

    Complicated way of saying:

    “since I don’t masterbate as much I want to fuck her more.”

    That would have made for a more punchy LinkedIn headline as well.