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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford.

    Yeah. I was living in a ratty townhouse inside Houston’s Beltway 8 with no less than four other roommates way back in 2009. It wasn’t always great, but you can’t argue with $300/mo rent. When I moved out with my then-girlfriend, I was immediately paying more than $800/mo. And then rental prices skyrocketed, so we found the first affordable home we could grab and locked ourselves in.

    I will say this about roommates. Between the four of us, we were either going to a house party someone knew about or we were hosting one, pretty much every weekend. Great way to meet people.

    TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well.

    Small is relative. You’re in a place with north of 50,000 people and your odds of meeting someone go way up. Live in a big city with 2.4M people and the odds are even better, of course.

    But I found a nice little beach volleyball spot about 20 minutes drive from my home. Never had a hard time meeting other people while I was playing.





  • I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.

    Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren’t already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.




  • I’ll just keep trying until I get one.

    Literally all you can ever do.

    That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.

    Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.

    But it’s so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.