• SwitchyandWitchy [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      2 months ago

      So are dude, bro, and man in some circles.

      As far as I’m concerned if a woman tells you that you’ve misgendered her using any of the terms in question, the only appropriate response involves an apology.

        • SwitchyandWitchy [she/her]@hexbear.net
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          2 months ago

          Mate isn’t. It means friend and no one is using it as a gendered term.

          Even in fucking australia it was a gendered term

          Whereas mate has traditionally been understood as a male solidarity term used ‘by males and for males’, this preliminary survey shows that more young women, aged between 18 and 29 years, are reporting their use of the address term mate compared to women aged over 50 years.

          But that’s not even the core of the issue. If somebody has been misgendered it is so cruel to start debating the merit of whether it’s actually okay to use that word for them, especially to them. Apologize or get lost.