• MBM@lemmings.world
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      4 days ago

      Infertile and post-menopausal women in shambles /s.
      If your point is that most people’s attraction isn’t just based on, say, what pronouns someone uses, then yeah that makes sense. Like, being attracted to a feminine body, genitals, whatever. I don’t think it’s a clear cis vs trans line though.

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          You are very wrong in your assumption. Most people don’t ask someone if they’re fertile before being attracted to them. That’d be fucking weird. I’m confident in saying that’s not a thought in most men’s minds when, for example, they watch porn.

          There’s a difference between being attracted to someone and wanting to be in a relationship with someone though. There’s a hell of a lot more people I’m attracted to than I’d want to be married to.

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            oh yeah i totally messed up in thinking attracted meant wanting a relationship. and i don’t mean they’d ask, that would be weird. i meant that if they discovered somehow that someone is infertile (like if they said it), they’d be less attracted to them.

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            Aaaactshually… I think that most hetero men are attracted to women that look like they are likely to be fertile. Argument: most mainstream, male-targeting hetero porn features women between 18 and, say, 40 or so. I do not believe that the average hetero man consciously thinks, hey, she looks like she could have my kids when it comes to raw attraction, it is more likely that things that are correlated with fertility (health, age, secondary sexual characteristics) are commonly seen as attractive.

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      4 days ago

      I feel like out of the two of these options, there’s one most straight men would go for, and its not buck angel…

      Buck Angel

      Abigail Thorn

      Also side not: Bucks been a fuck about enbies IIRC, but I didn’t know any other jacked trans dudes off of the top of my head. If someone wants to fix that please do.

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          My point was that straight is a lot more fluid than that, and there are lots of straight dudes who REALLY REALLY don’t want kids.

          Also even if they do want kids eventually, the vast, VAST majority of sexual encounters for most people today, will be WITHOUT the intent of having kids.

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            sure i never said straight could only mean that. and where we live, it’s possible that most men don’t want kids (or at least not yet). but i’m talking about the entire world, and in a lot of countries it is expected for everyone to build families and have kids.

            now it might not be most men that think like that, even if i think it is.