I don’t know if you know this. but no one is promoting people to higher positions. at all. it could take decades to go from server to idk, shift manager? and often, it comes with no pay increase and less opportunities for tips. There is no forward progress labor has faced stagnate wages for decades. Also, the single most accurate metric to find out how you’ll be doing in life, is your parents zip code when you were born. so merit isn’t the thing that gets you moving along in life. in all likelihood the guy with the girlfriend, wife, kid, is making the same money his parents were making.
(unless you enjoy it then serve people till your hearts content)
Then he’ll need to figure some other way out, he’s a 31 year old server, it sounds like he should be talking to people all day anyway, surely there will be some woman or regular around he can chat to
But moving up in life job wise is a start, if you can’t even put yourself out there to get a better job then you might find putting yourself out there for a relationship even harder
I don’t know if you know this. but no one is promoting people to higher positions. at all. it could take decades to go from server to idk, shift manager? and often, it comes with no pay increase and less opportunities for tips. There is no forward progress labor has faced stagnate wages for decades. Also, the single most accurate metric to find out how you’ll be doing in life, is your parents zip code when you were born. so merit isn’t the thing that gets you moving along in life. in all likelihood the guy with the girlfriend, wife, kid, is making the same money his parents were making.
Then your only job outside of serving is to skill up and go find a job elsewhere even if it’s in another category of work
Or? Maybe? They like what they do for work. They like the routine, they feel safe in the establishment. It keeps their needs and wants met.
Yeah that’s why I said
Then he’ll need to figure some other way out, he’s a 31 year old server, it sounds like he should be talking to people all day anyway, surely there will be some woman or regular around he can chat to
But moving up in life job wise is a start, if you can’t even put yourself out there to get a better job then you might find putting yourself out there for a relationship even harder