[seeking input from people who use female restrooms]
Hello! I have been using women’s restrooms for some time now. Tonight however, will be the first time that I will be going out with some girlfriends where public toilets will be involved. Everyone I am going with knows that I am trans, and is supportive. My questions/concerns are:
- If I get up to use the bathroom, should I ask anyone if they would like to come with?
- If another woman gets up, should I offer to go with?
- If we are using the restroom at the same time, and I finish first, should I wait for them? If so, inside, or outside?
I’m mostly just wanting to act “normal,” and don’t want to unknowingly perform any social faux pas. Thanks!
@Kayday@lemmy.blahaj.zone
this sounds right to me, but I think it’s also important to be sensitive to the local norms of the group you are in … I wouldn’t assume there are global rules, and what is comfortable or expected will vary.
That’s not necessarily helpful, but it might be good to know that it’s better to be relaxed and receptive than rigid and anxiously following a rulebook.
I wouldn’t generally ask if anyone wants to join me going to the restroom, but I might in some contexts announce I need to and will be going, allowing others to join if they want. In some contexts announcing also allows coordinating in case someone needs to stay to keep a table or spot reserved, and it can then sometimes be more like a question of consent that it’s ok if I go (because my going might restrict their going in that situation).