Are they just assholes or is it something deeper?
I’ll just offer one particular situation. I have a door to my kitchen that is metal and glass like a sliding door but swings on a hinge. More mass than a typical wooden door and it swings on the hinge very freely, no resistance to slow it down. So it swings with pretty much the velocity you give it, and it requires a decent amount to make it latch.
Commonly I go in or out with stuff in my hands so I can rarely close it slowly and carefully. I end up giving it a little shove, often with my foot. If you get the force just right, it will latch with out being loud, but it has to be just right. Any less and it doesn’t latch. Any more and it slams pretty loudly. It’s really hard to get right, an not slam it more loudly than you intend. And I’m sensitive to noise so it’s not like I don’t care. But with this particular door it’s hard to avoid.
Some are assholes. Others have zero self-awareness. I stress about every little offense I might have possibly made, while astoundingly many others run around unaware that they are being jerks all day. I suspect the unnecessary playing of audio out loud in public stems from a very similar cause.
Confronting those who lack self-awareness is hard for those of us with excessive awareness, but it often gets the job done. Also a quick litmus test for who’s just unaware and who’s really an asshole.
Have you noticed this phenomenon increasingly often, or has it been much the same throughout your years?
My wife’s family was like that when I met them. Stomping around, chewing loudly, and TV super loud. When we moved in together, we got our hearing checked and it turned out she had a genetic issue that fused her stapen (hammer bone in the ear) into a fixed position which meant severe hearing impairment. Luckily a surgeon can replace the stapen with a titanium micro prosthesis that solves the problem.
Just after the procedure she called me downstairs because she said she was hearing weird noises and it turned out to be the refrigerator compressor she had never heard before. After both ears were completed, a lot of the loud behavior stopped.
I really think that some subset of these people just have hearing loss.Probably the building forces an air pressure difference between the corridors and the units to keep air circulating, their door closer doesn’t arrest the door properly, and the air pressure causes it to slam if they don’t carefully close it gently.
My door as well as the other 8 people on the floor don’t seem to have this problem
Okay? So at the risk of stating the obvious application of my previous comment: maybe kindly suggest to the occupant or the manager that their door closer needs to be adjusted?
Okay? My question wasn’t how to deal with it, I’m well aware of how to deal with it?
Ooohhhh, you want to bitch about it. Tcchhh, my bad. They’re absolutely assholes and I think I heard them say they do it just because it annoys you. You’re the one on the end, right?
People definitely love you for your personality
This is probably it. In my door I have to close it with some force unless a window is open then its big boom time.
I used to live in an apartment on a busy street and befriend some of my neighbors. One day, we were helping some other friends of ours move in to a new home. They’re from a quieter part of the town.
They were absolutely baffled that we all just walked in and out of rooms slamming doors everytime.
What’s in our mind? Well, honestly, we just pay no mind. Where we lived, the background noise was just so loud that the sound of doors being slammed weren’t a bother.
My downstairs neighbors at my old apartment were so fucking obnoxius about slamming the door. If they were doing something in the yard they’d go in and out constantly, slamming the doors like the house owed them money about 20 times/hour. It was an old building, and everything would shake every single time they had to go through any door.
I just think a lot of people simply don’t give a shit about anyone else around them.
Or maybe they’re just a different kind of autistic from you.
Possibly, I’m not autistic though.
so any kind would be a different kind, then
Nah just egotistical assholes.
It’s wholly possible these people are not bothered by loud noises. I have neighbors and especially their kids seem to have no clue what an inside voice is, how far bass travels or how to walk down stairs.
They shout, they blast music, they fall down stairs.
If I did that as a kid, my dad would tell me to cut it out. And I think that’s the key difference. You’re either raised to be considerate of others, or you’re not. And if you’re the considerate type, most likely you’ll go out of your way because you don’t want them to be bothered by you while they might not even register if you happen to fall down the stairs or fire a cannon indoors.
I used to be really careful with watching tv at certain hours, or announcing to my neighbors of I was going to have people over. It took me a while but I now don’t even really care if they hear me anymore. Because even if they do, it’s unlikely they’ll be bothered as much as I am when their preteen kids shout that they don’t want to go to bed at 10:30 PM when I’m trying to sleep.
The one in my place closes with so much force, that if I don’t remember to catch it while it closing it slams so hard.
It is maybe one in 20 closes that I miss it.
Multiply that by 20 or 50 residents
Might just be a bad latch.
The handful of times I’ve seen them by coincidence in the hall, they’ve closed it like a normal person
So you’ve never actually seen them slam the door?
They live across the hall from me, like the door is directly across the hall from mine. It’s pretty obviously them
Not in an apartment right now, but I do tend to absentmindedly slam things. Sorry, I don’t mean to be loud.
They might not be noticing the noise. Earwax buildup, reduced hearing or different angles etc.
Could be that they are in a hurry or that the door is tight too?
Some people are just loud. I might be the exact opposite. I always walk like a ninja. i prefer headphones, and i hate slamming doors. I once had a girlfriend who would slam doors in my house like it’s nothing. She was tiny compared to me, but i could hear her walk around upstairs, which i didn’t know was possible because i have concrete ceilings and an insulated floor.
Theyre not terrified of what people think , like me
God, can you imagine just walking around like that? Sounds amazing.
It must be! Ignorance is bliss, lol
I assume assholes, all the time.
I have only slammed my door a handful of times in gaps of time but that’s only because something or someone has really pissed me off to get there. I normally don’t like slamming things.
Sometimes the wind/draft catches the door and it slams by accident.
