Yesterday I updated my pronouns from she/they/any pronoun to they/she/any pronoun. Something deep inside me feels like that order fits better. “They” feels more right than “she”.
When I joined, my bio started “Cis woman”. Then “I’m a woman… I think” for a year or so. As of yesterday it starts “Woman or woman-like substance”.
Anyone have any tips? Tricks? Things that’ll help me figure out if this is the direction I really need to go? I feel kinda lost here. (and a smidge of imposter syndrome)
I found reading broadly was helpful - finding other people who have similar experiences of gender as you and who have written about it can really be helpful for discovering yourself.
For transmasc experiences:
Personally I found “experimentation” worthless as a trans person, e.g. when I was in denial and I would try to crossdress to see how I felt, it always made me feel worse. Makeup made me feel worse. I misinterpreted this as evidence I didn’t find those things gender-affirming. That said, it’s a common suggestion and you could try it out and see if it helps.
You could try one of those apps that gender swaps your face - how that makes you feel can be some indication.
You can always just try HRT - that’s a valid way to try to figure out how you feel.
Obviously a good idea is to find a gender-informed therapist (ideally someone who has lots of experience with other trans patients) to help you walk through how you feel.