This post is lengthy but it carries a question I have been thinking about for a long time, thank you for opening it :]
Introduction
I will present a writedown of my thoughts on the topic, you may read it if you want to discuss my perspective. I’d be equally delighted to just read some thoughts or opinions from you.
My perspective
I’m at least questioning my current identity, however I’m often troubled by the problem stated in the title.
Gender Roles/Stereotypes
I consider gender roles outdated and problematic at least. This is possibly stemming from the fact, that I’m unhappy with the one assigned to me. In case I was too ambigous: I’m thinking about constructs including but not limited to:
- Men should be strong, they may pursue technical interests.
- Women are caring and supportive, their primary interests should be of a social nature. They care about looks and feels
I think these prejudices are actively harmful to non-conforming people, since they may be perceived as socially inept or weird (consider young adults/school).
Transgender Identity
On to the Trans Identity Part. I have gained the impression that transitioned people are doing their best to fulfill the roles and stereotypes assigned to their desired gender.
Conclusion
To me, it seems like efforts towards gender equality, and therefore the abolishment of stereotypes are clashing with trans peoples desire to fit in with society.
I see both sides, they have motivation I can understand, it feels like a conflict that cannot be resolved.
Thank you for sitting and reading through this, I’d be happy to discuss anything related.
I’m gonna talk from a transfem pov.
Yes and no. Dysphoria comes in a variety of flavours. What you’re describing could most accurately be described as societal dysphoria. And my understanding is that it’s closely associated with social dysphoria. So if you need other people to see you as a woman, you will likely also feel a need to conform to societal norms for femininity.
You for sure get a lot of trans tradwives, but you also get a lot who are nothing like that. I for example grew up rurally and the traditional gender roles take a back seat to practicality in day to day life. So all the women I grew up around dressed in jeans and hoodies and did manual labour. Everyone hung out in mixed groups and we all went to the pub together. So socially I have a preference for female company and feel I have more to talk about with my girls. But I don’t feel a need to conform to gender stereotypes.
I’d like to thank you for sharing your pov.
I had read a little in the bible before, apparently not enough.
Great Thanks for the Link