I am not sure this is the right place but my girlfriend recently broke up with me through whatsapp, she was not clear why beyond saying I was putting to much pressure on her to meet in person when she couldn’t and that I didn’t want to listen. I am not looking for advice about that, I accept her choice to break up and she asked me not to be in contact for a while, which I have/will also do.

I am posting here because it really really hurts, and I feel like my entire world is collapsing around me. I am trying to reach out to what IRL friends I have to meet up but I feel so isolated and alone and I am just not sure what to do. The entire situation made me feel so powerless and alienated. The person that I thought I knew would never have done it this way and would have tried to solve it with me. And she never gave any signs before she made the decision, it was clearly something she had in her mind for a while but she even told me she loved me 2 days before she broke up, she was planning stuff to do, making things for my mom,… it just sucks

Idk Ig i am just looking for comfort :)

  • LeninWalksTheEarth [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    7 days ago

    i see. it’s tough to be that far from each other and try to maintain a relationship. I dated someone for like 5 months, she was like 2-2.5 hours away by car(train? i wish). But when we started our schedules aligned well, until they didnt. Then i dated someone for like 6 months, she became a flight attendant like 1 month into the relationship and that didnt last either. Being just talk and text only can only work for so long usually. 1 year is pretty impressive but at some point someone has to move closer. 1 year of dating and break up via whatsapp is pretty shitty though. ive had casual 3 month relationships where they still dumped me to my face, whatsapp breakup after a year is absurd to me.

    • Bisexual_Cookie [comrade/them, any]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      1·
      7 days ago

      Well IDK, tbh I cannot spare the energy to be angry at her, it hurts but my mom recently got a very aggressive cancer and my great-grandmother of 100 died in january, which is something that affected everyone since she was a staple in our lives for so long. I dont understand how I hurt her enough for her to do this at this time, Ig its never a good time but still, it was 3 days before my birthday ffs o_o

      • LeninWalksTheEarth [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        2·
        6 days ago

        yea you def don’t have to be mad/angry, that energy is best used elsewhere, it’s just so disrespectful IMO to end it via text. unless that is happening more often with younger people. you probably didnt hurt her, she just wanted to move on for some reason. i never really got an explanation from my first gf but she was 22 and at that age i think it’s unlikely youll be with someone forever, especially these days.