• emeralddawn45@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    11 hours ago

    Ouch. Some egg memes make me feel really seen and validated but this just one just kinda hits way too hard and makes me sad. Still whatever (cis I guess) though, but despite lots of introspection and the realization that maybe changing something would improve my situation, age and lack of a current friend group/support system, years of depression, and the costs associated with a whole new wardrobe, the mental burden of learning to fit in in an entirely different way, and the difficulty of finding someone I can even speak to about these things makes everything feel so out of reach that I just feel even more despair. Idk thanks for your memes and presence here, I recognize the username and you’re a beautiful presence. Idk why I’m even writing this comment except I’ve had a couple drinks.

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      9 hours ago

      It’s ok; this image is seriously a cognitohazard for eggs. It’s so brutally efficient at cutting through the internal excuses for not transitioning that it leaves you only with the practical considerations. Not having the social support or money to transition are reasonable concerns. Transitioning isn’t easy, especially if you have to deal with bigotry and medical gatekeepers.

      However, transitioning will do more for your mental health than almost anything. It’s not like age will stop you from enjoying the time you have left as the person you want to be. Fascism and transphobia have made my life so depressing recently, but I still don’t regret transitioning in the slightest. Even if I get killed for being trans, it was far better enjoying the few years I had than going the rest of my life as the empty husk I once was.

    • Tunawithshoes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      Now I can’t speak for your situation. But I am transitioning at age 35, there so many even older people that have started to transition. If you can look at Reddit subreddit translater is a great resource to see you are not alone.

      You don’t have to a new wardrobe tomorrow. Hell I been transiting for a year and most of my women wardrobe is just fun clothes to wear at home that I think I would die if I was seen wearing outside.

      It is lifelong journey but you dont have be at finish line tomorrow. Start small finding something to try in peace and quiet. In my case was this black tull skirt that made me spinn as chield

  • Tess@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    11 hours ago

    Ouch, that’s way too accurate.
    I’m going to save this one for when I started doubting myself again.

  • Miles O'Brien@startrek.website
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    16 hours ago

    Yeah, ALL cis males use dozens of filter apps to see what they look like as a woman and ask random strangers if they “think this girl is cute”

    Totally normal cis thing to do. Right guys?

    … Right?