From a pretty early age I decided I didn’t want to get married or have kids cuz both my parents seemed utterly miserable. For a long time I found it weird anyone wanted to do it at all, why would you want to be trapped with someone you hate who you get into screaming arguments all the time?
And it’s not just me, you see a lot of jokes online about people like playing that one scene from Marriage Story while playing old N64 games for nostalgia.
I think the experience of seeing our own parents be so miserable maybe soured a lot of us on starting families.
my parents actually got along pretty well, but they hated being parents, especially to any kids they had after 1982. The ones born before then get special treatment (still pretty bad all things considered, but they will step up to defend them in court and pay the lawyers,) while the rest of us either fear parenthood or strive to do better… although even then, the habits of our parents are hard to confront/ work through.
imagine their reaction to becoming grandparents – this went terribly. Well; the special treatment ones are fine, but the other ones not so much. They kind of hated those grandkids. One is an adult now and we both don’t speak to those individuals ✌️
It’s really trippy to me, because my in-laws are much better parents (low bar, they’re still shitty in some ways) and the most recent baby being born is actually being met with happiness and positive anticipation.
My sibling’s former in laws are even more discriminating, first kid my sibling had is showered with presents from the in laws, the second kid has largely been ignored.