From a pretty early age I decided I didn’t want to get married or have kids cuz both my parents seemed utterly miserable. For a long time I found it weird anyone wanted to do it at all, why would you want to be trapped with someone you hate who you get into screaming arguments all the time?
And it’s not just me, you see a lot of jokes online about people like playing that one scene from Marriage Story while playing old N64 games for nostalgia.
I think the experience of seeing our own parents be so miserable maybe soured a lot of us on starting families.
for me its the pro-eugenics arguments, Ive never really used the term “anti-natalism” because the issue to me isnt the lack of desire of having kids, but the contempt for children in general and ire towards those having kids. Especially mutliply marginalized people, who get the brunt of “well maybe you shouldnt have kids if you cant afford one!” or “dont have kids if you’re disabled” to me, is a failure on a societal level – and also eugenics.