They sneer at others for needing help, but they are the ones who well and truly need it themselves
but that help seems unreachable to them; that’s the problem, they see others getting the help they need , don’t think can get, or feel ashamed of needing.
I disagree. You imply they admit to needing help. I think they’re all in denial. They have problems and want to blame everyone but themselves, and are unwilling to take any responsibility.
This is it. It’s a bunch of angry people who think “Life is supposed to be hard! Deal with it.”
They think their life experiences are comparable to everyone else, which creates a logical fallacy:
Successful people don’t need help, but must obviously struggle just as much as I do.
I don’t have it easy, yet don’t need help, so people who ask for it are just being lazy.
They internalize the “life is hard” mantra and assume it’s normal to be playing life on hard mode, not realizing some people have the difficulty slider set to very easy while others are on nightmare.
but that help seems unreachable to them; that’s the problem, they see others getting the help they need , don’t think can get, or feel ashamed of needing.
I disagree. You imply they admit to needing help. I think they’re all in denial. They have problems and want to blame everyone but themselves, and are unwilling to take any responsibility.
This is it. It’s a bunch of angry people who think “Life is supposed to be hard! Deal with it.”
They think their life experiences are comparable to everyone else, which creates a logical fallacy:
Successful people don’t need help, but must obviously struggle just as much as I do.
I don’t have it easy, yet don’t need help, so people who ask for it are just being lazy.
They internalize the “life is hard” mantra and assume it’s normal to be playing life on hard mode, not realizing some people have the difficulty slider set to very easy while others are on nightmare.
You have just described my father perfectly. He is precisely like this.
“I suffer from depression. Or, as my father puts it, no I don’t.”
-Tig Notaro
When sociopathy is normalized and idolized, that’s exactly how it seems to be.