I don’t know if this is the right place to ask this, I apologize if it isn’t.
Lately (as in a few years), I have been noticing a higher amount of “jokes” directed at trans (girls specially) in the line of “yes, a girl, but with an extra queue the laughs” and I don’t really know if I’m personally just too sensitive and tired of these things or if is a more generalized sentiment.
I mean, those are things you could say to your trans friend when you’re pretty close and both parts are on the same understanding that it’s a joke, but just watching some video that has nothing to do with the theme and randomly getting the insert slur here (in Spanish there are many to choose from) is surprisingly tiresome.
Of course the moment you say “that’s like a slur tbh” the “counter argument” is “it’s a joke” and then I don’t know what to say. Am I just too tired of the same “joke” or should I call it out? How do you see this “joke”, “trend”, whatever?
My primary school teacher gave me wisdom that I wish more people considered: “If both people are laughing, it’s a joke. If one person’s laughing, it’s teasing”
Some people think that if an individual from a collective laugh then it’s fair game. If a trans person laugh or says the same “joke” then its okay despite being offensive to everyone else, since they have that one endorsement then it’s fair and everyone else is just being “too sensitive”.
And it happens every time.