Hey everyone~~
oh no, it’s been two months since I’ve posted anything around here, when I was looking for help. Seems like I’m way less interested in being terminally online when I’m living my best life.
So just a quick catch up: Been wearing skirts out pretty much exclusively and am loving it. Strangers have been less derogatory than I expected, I can still count the vocally bad encounters on my fingers. Something I didn’t consider for a second in the anxiety around this I’ve had before - there’s also people who just treat me better, warmer than I’m used to. Mostly women, actually.
Thanks to your kind advice I took more control over my journey, which felt incredibly good, mostly. Was lucky enough to find a gynecologist who gave me a private prescription of my first estradiol gel following informed consent, more or less. Dosage is on the low end, planning on increasing next week and hopefully adding some blockers into the mix.
Also contacted some more therapists and found someone very kind, who sent me the written indication I need to get access to HRT through health care. It got lost in the mail, though, second attempt should be out tomorrow x).
Last but not least, started a new job (software engineering, of course), which is exhausting, but also a pretty nice opportunity. That old trade-off, time or money, pick one - yikes. Had some downers lately as well, dysphoria is kicking in really bad at times, but I’ll manage.
Well, today was a very special day. I went to the local registry office and officially changed my name and gender. It took three months of waiting and now I own an updated birth certificate with my new name and identity.
Didn’t really expect this, but I can hardy describe how good that felt - I’ve had literal tears of joy. I’m not sure I ever had these, from laughing maybe, but not from pure, unadulterated joy. Such an amazing relief, to finally be able to do the paperwork to get rid of that old name.
One of my best friends accompanied me today, he was really sweet. He gave me a small rag doll and a lighter, explained that’s deadname and I shall burn him and bury him somewhere. Absolutely gonna do that :>
Well, that’s all for now, just had to shout this out somewhere.
Thanks for being here and being yourselves <3
Congrats, I got all of mine finally changed a few months ago (except for the federal government stuff like passport and social security and all that since the US doesn’t allow it anymore).
Took a long time and I’m still changing my name and gender in lots of places. It’s nice seeing it.
Heya, the Social security office let me change my name (as of late April) but they wont change gender at this time. I am fairly certain the same is true for passports at this time but i havnt made that appt yet.
Yeah that’s what I meant. This post was talking more about gender. I just mentioned I had Tl change both in so, so many places and still keep funding more ive forgotten about. LOL.
I did get my name updated everywhere once my birth state finally got around to updating my birth certificate, but gender can’t be changed in any federal systems right now because of Trump’s executive order that the courts blocked, but the the corrupted Supreme Court let go into effect. They won’t even change it when I presented my corrected birth certificate which supposedly is what is what they say we have to go by.
Sucks because it means I can’t actually risk travel and I was really looking forward to a vacation after years of ally PTO being spent on medical care. If my ID doesn’t match my appearance, much less the genitals they’ll see on the x-ray, I risk being turned away at the airport and/or foreign immigration and customs. At least domestically I can use my state enhanced ID which let’s you put whatever you want.