My opinion is and has been for years that Hexbear has accidentally cultivated a very mean spirited community of people who are constantly trying to dunk each other, therefore leading to the nice people getting scared off and the mean people occasionally crashing out and getting banned. It’s hard to grow in those kind of circumstances.
Honestly if we just started fostering a kinder community I think we would grow again.
I blocked /c/slop a while ago and I’m enjoying what’s left of hexbear much more. You’re right, though. At some point looking for stuff to be angry about just makes you angrier and bitterer than you were before.
It couldn’t hurt. I left for similar reasons. The incident in question caused a very severe, negative mental state and I just had to stay away for a long time. I think I’m better?
I remember sharing a few ideas a long time ago but I can’t possibly remember what they were. I think it was more involving admin/user trust or whatever.
Honestly the community just needs to decide to do better. Myself included. All of us. We just need to decide to be comrades. It’s impossible to moderate kindness in my opinion, it has to be something the community chooses.
I know there are so many wonderful good hearted and kind people on this site. I hope the ones who like to fight and want to start shit and are always searching for the bad in each other can choose to think differently or not engage at all if they can’t.
It’s impossible to moderate kindness in my opinion, it has to be something the community chooses.
idk, literally within the past eight days you, yourself, called out another user that, at this point, i can confidently say has a multi-year history of deliberately being needlessly and excessively hostile, dishonest, and pedantic. i think taking mod actions on a user like that would be a good place to start in improving the general atmosphere of the site.
it has to be something the community chooses.
some people just won’t choose this though and at that point the mod/admin team should choose for them.
I hope the ones who like to fight and want to start shit and are always searching for the bad in each other can choose to think differently or not engage at all if they can’t.
(temp) banning them would prevent them from engaging on that account.
My opinion is and has been for years that Hexbear has accidentally cultivated a very mean spirited community of people who are constantly trying to dunk each other, therefore leading to the nice people getting scared off and the mean people occasionally crashing out and getting banned. It’s hard to grow in those kind of circumstances.
Honestly if we just started fostering a kinder community I think we would grow again.
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I blocked /c/slop a while ago and I’m enjoying what’s left of hexbear much more. You’re right, though. At some point looking for stuff to be angry about just makes you angrier and bitterer than you were before.
It couldn’t hurt. I left for similar reasons. The incident in question caused a very severe, negative mental state and I just had to stay away for a long time. I think I’m better?
I remember sharing a few ideas a long time ago but I can’t possibly remember what they were. I think it was more involving admin/user trust or whatever.
Well, a mod got banned for threatening to beat a user to death with a tire iron and an admin crashed out over an emote, so there’s that.
Honestly the community just needs to decide to do better. Myself included. All of us. We just need to decide to be comrades. It’s impossible to moderate kindness in my opinion, it has to be something the community chooses.
I know there are so many wonderful good hearted and kind people on this site. I hope the ones who like to fight and want to start shit and are always searching for the bad in each other can choose to think differently or not engage at all if they can’t.
idk, literally within the past eight days you, yourself, called out another user that, at this point, i can confidently say has a multi-year history of deliberately being needlessly and excessively hostile, dishonest, and pedantic. i think taking mod actions on a user like that would be a good place to start in improving the general atmosphere of the site.
some people just won’t choose this though and at that point the mod/admin team should choose for them.
(temp) banning them would prevent them from engaging on that account.
Even the “jokes” are getting grating.
I’m not 100% convinced that’s a joke, though it is a bit funny when it’s posted from an instance that’s currently 1/4 the active users of Hexbear.