I’ve hated being a Millennial ever since the stupid avocado toast days. I’ve been pretty vocal about my dislike of profiling generations, I know everyone is probably getting tired of me ranting about it. I see it as useful for knowing what environment people have likely grown up in and that’s about it. It’s very obviously often weaponised as a way to divide people and I’ve always tried to ignore the discourse (despite probably annoying you all by ranting about it constantly in a “Jesus Dort just get off the internet and go get some help” kind of way)

But now Millennials are getting older and it feel like we’re only getting more and more hate. We’re being remembered by everyone, young and old, as failures who accomplished nothing. Nothing we did mattered, and nothing we do now will ever be acknowledged as ours because in the eyes of society our time is over. It feels like the world is like “Oh thank god those losers don’t matter any more, see how much better at life the next generation is? Zoomers are directing Hollywood hits at age 20!” like I want to be happy for them but at the same time I can’t help but feel like when my generation did/does shit like that no one went/goes “Wow! Look at what Millennials accomplished!” I feel like the only time anyone ever spoke/speaks about us is to complain about how much we suck. Anything good we do/did gets ignored and only our flaws ever get acknowledged.

It really gets me down for some reason, maybe it’s RSD, a mid-life crisis, maybe I’m just weak, who knows? I feel like we weren’t given the chances others were and given yet we’re judged for it like it was our fault.

Anyway this is the last I’ll ever say about it because it’s embarrassing to be whining like a victim in my 30s and this site isn’t a mental health service. I just feel like I’m part of a generation whose life is over before it got a chance to begin and I never got a say in it. Like nothing I do now matters.

Posting this in the neurodiverse comm because I’m pretty sure my feelings are the result of… something, whether it’s the aforementioned RSD from my AuDHD, some kind of trauma or just middle age around the corner making me existential, I don’t know. Maybe all three.

Fully understand if mods decide to delete this for being too much

  • Arahnya [fae/faer, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    7 days ago

    I want to share a quote from “adult children of emotionally immature parents” because it really stuck with me, having being told over and over not to rely on other people to meet my emotional needs :

    When I suggested to Ben that he could try opening up to Alexa, given how supportive she was, he told me he thought he should be more self-­ reliant, saying, “I should be able to weather this on my own. Isn’t it up to me to meet my own emotional needs?” What a lonely thought. I told Ben that we all need other people to meet our emotional needs for comfort and closeness. That’s what relationships are all about.

    now I know we’re not partners, we’re just strangers on a forum who regularly post here. But I do want to emphasize that the familiarity here does lend to some comfort and closeness even if we arent friends. Ofc some people can’t be trusted to reciprocate, or will be actively harmful – but you know, I think what you posted is not inappropriate, and certainly not “too much.” I guess I relate heavily because I was always told that my emotions were too much.

    Anyway, I consider myself a Zilennial, although most people would call themselves a Milennial at my age. The generations are so serious you arent allowed to do something like have your own interpretation of them 🙄

    The generational hate doesn’t bother me I guess, I have always found it to be ridiculous. Just everything associated with the culture of generationalism. Like for example, saying that milennials would save us all. That didnt pan out, so then it became gen z would save us all. That didnt pan out, no surprise – because life isnt a tragectory of bad to good. People of the older generations are still mad about it though.

    Then there is rhe whole “gen z slang” thing that was literally just 4chan and appropriated AAVE, this rumor also being perpetuated by the older generations.

    so to me a lot of it is outside the range of just being a little cultural marker of what was happening when you were born, to a way of basically saying “Kids these days!!” like the increased hatred of mils to me really speaks to a sense of malicious parental control, like “you failed me, now its your younger brother who will take over the buisiness!!” just overall unscientific thinking imo.