(speaking here as khemehli, with help from cela)
so i have been well aware of the tropes that trans girls are very submissive and love to receive puppygirl treatment and so forth (sadly often neglecting the existence of enbies).
but i also have recognized that i am not that submissive, so my thinking is that there are surely others who are like me in this regard.
of course while conjecture is fun and all, i wanted some numbers. my methodology was to figure out if my closer transfemme friends (n=4) would let me leash them. a couple of them (n=2) i have already put on a leash in the past, so that leaves the other two.
for the first friend i was thinking “eh, there is a decent chance my conjecture holds true for her but i’m not too sure” and for the second “xe is definitely going to say no”.
yeah turns out i was entirely wrong and they both just went “oh yeah totally!”. so each time i went ahead and grabbed a leash and collar from my purse, approached them, gently fastened the collar around their neck, and then clipped on the leash. it was really really cute n fun heheh (and no not in a sexual way)
as thanks for their contributions to science, each participant was awarded with a yummy chocolate treat hand fed to them (and headpats and praise).
so moral of the story uhh this is clearly not enough data and i need to ask more transfemmes if i can leash them.
yeah thank you for coming to my TED talk 👍
something else funny of note: when making this post, we first put in the title and accidentally hit post never having actually typed out anything. we deleted it seconds later but its still interesting to see how many upvotes it got despite having ZERO content lol
one of our collars used to be for one of our cats but for some reason she hated it in particular but it still looked really cute when we tried it on in the mirror (a couple years ago) and so we figured it would probably look cute on others as well. and it has. do see @SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone’s note about pet collars though!
another was from an estate sale with a little new-in-box bdsm gear. it is more “purpose-built” and is a bit wider and quite better for pulling and stuff. we actually also got a cute little pink choker with spikes from there too and have used it as a collar too but its not the best.
we have also gotten a couple from a local shop which specializes mostly in leather boots and stuff but offers collars too in good sizes!
our favorite impromptu leash is the detachable strap on our handbag, but we got one from that estate sale too (its literal garbage though), also one from that aforementioned store, and a couple from a pet shop. we have also cleaned up and used a stainless steel chain harvested from a broken engine hoist.
may your uh, friend enjoy :3
Where the hell do you manage to find an estate sale with bondage stuff available? Thats like a dream come true
we were biking through some residential area while running errands and came across that stuff (plus a couple other things we could fit on our bike). it was an impulse buy heheh
I’m rather jealous!
So, was there piles and piles of bondage stuff just laying around? I’m picturing arriving back home, saying to my wife “I found the most amazing bargain!” and then on the car’s roof rack I proudly show off our new spanking horse …
mm wouldn’t exactly say piles, the people there didn’t seem brave enough to put most of the conceivably used stuff out. there was still some opportunity though!
in total we’d reckon we picked up about five twelfths of a bushel of stuff, mostly implements of restraint but also a nice little hitachi wand and some very aesthetically fitting garter straps. plus a few nipple clamps 'cause the sellers probably didn’t know they were also for similar activities.
usually the university students here don’t have that much actual bondage stuff (mostly just penetrative toys) but perhaps they just might have these due to how nicely they look to work with those sex machines. we prioritize comfort so its probably wouldn’t really be our jam though? but who knows. or maybe it could be! only one way to find out ofc…
not owning a car, our options are really only the (fare-free) public transit bus or the bicycle and both of them seem equally funny to bring such a thing home by
I feel kinda bad for the sellers - I had to throw away all my toys at one point, at short notice, and it was shit :-(
I’ve never had a spanking horse of my own (or any big play furniture) but oh my dog they are such fun. They come in various levels of comfiness, so I wouldn’t sorry about that aspect too much if I were you
Thx a lot