(speaking here as khemehli, with help from cela)
so i have been well aware of the tropes that trans girls are very submissive and love to receive puppygirl treatment and so forth (sadly often neglecting the existence of enbies).
but i also have recognized that i am not that submissive, so my thinking is that there are surely others who are like me in this regard.
of course while conjecture is fun and all, i wanted some numbers. my methodology was to figure out if my closer transfemme friends (n=4) would let me leash them. a couple of them (n=2) i have already put on a leash in the past, so that leaves the other two.
for the first friend i was thinking “eh, there is a decent chance my conjecture holds true for her but i’m not too sure” and for the second “xe is definitely going to say no”.
yeah turns out i was entirely wrong and they both just went “oh yeah totally!”. so each time i went ahead and grabbed a leash and collar from my purse, approached them, gently fastened the collar around their neck, and then clipped on the leash. it was really really cute n fun heheh (and no not in a sexual way)
as thanks for their contributions to science, each participant was awarded with a yummy chocolate treat hand fed to them (and headpats and praise).
so moral of the story uhh this is clearly not enough data and i need to ask more transfemmes if i can leash them.
yeah thank you for coming to my TED talk 👍
something else funny of note: when making this post, we first put in the title and accidentally hit post never having actually typed out anything. we deleted it seconds later but its still interesting to see how many upvotes it got despite having ZERO content lol
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I don’t really understand any of this post (mainly because I’m a non-Blahajian outsider) but everybody seemed to have fun. Good luck with your future research.
Honestly, same. Looking in from the outside and seeing how fun all the queer folk here seem, I just can’t understand how people are so scared and angry about them.
They can see our lifestyle is more fun, but they are too scared of change to let themselves enjoy it.
Which is so sad to me. I’d love to meet some of the people I’ve seen around here. They just seem genuinely pleasant and fun.
And as someone living in a backwards shithole on the Southern end of the globe, I don’t really have much opportunity to meet many queer people.
so uhm where do i sign up for this study?
Very interesting research, you should definitely have a bigger sample size, usually 30 is a minimum for a reliable study. I’m looking forward to your future publications
(sadly often neglecting the existence of enbies).
As an enby I volunteer for the 2nd round of the studies 🥺
Oh yeah defo. I got this one for a cutie I was chatting up.
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It’s very funny to me that you rewarded puppygirls with chocolate in particular.
ive never been leashed but id try it :3 i already know i like being choked and bitten on the neck so being leashed would probably activate similar neurons. being a good girl and being told what to do would also be very nice hehe.
If you need more data, I can be yours.
YOUR DATA. For your study.
Where do yall buy youre leashes?
EDIT: Asking for a friend of course (:
I found nicer real leather collars for my subs in pet stores (plus you can get engraved tags of ownership while you’re there, if you’re not bashful). From sex shops they were either a bit shit, or really expensive (and still had trouble finding a really good fit).
I only ever upgraded one sub to a proper custom-made collar. She was a very good girl to earn that :-)
The only thing with pet shop collars is they tend to be narrower, so you can’t really use them to put a sub into place with any real force
one of our collars used to be for one of our cats but for some reason she hated it in particular but it still looked really cute when we tried it on in the mirror (a couple years ago) and so we figured it would probably look cute on others as well. and it has. do see @SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone’s note about pet collars though!
another was from an estate sale with a little new-in-box bdsm gear. it is more “purpose-built” and is a bit wider and quite better for pulling and stuff. we actually also got a cute little pink choker with spikes from there too and have used it as a collar too but its not the best.
we have also gotten a couple from a local shop which specializes mostly in leather boots and stuff but offers collars too in good sizes!
our favorite impromptu leash is the detachable strap on our handbag, but we got one from that estate sale too (its literal garbage though), also one from that aforementioned store, and a couple from a pet shop. we have also cleaned up and used a stainless steel chain harvested from a broken engine hoist.
may your uh, friend enjoy :3
Where the hell do you manage to find an estate sale with bondage stuff available? Thats like a dream come true
we were biking through some residential area while running errands and came across that stuff (plus a couple other things we could fit on our bike). it was an impulse buy heheh
I’m rather jealous!
So, was there piles and piles of bondage stuff just laying around? I’m picturing arriving back home, saying to my wife “I found the most amazing bargain!” and then on the car’s roof rack I proudly show off our new spanking horse …
mm wouldn’t exactly say piles, the people there didn’t seem brave enough to put most of the conceivably used stuff out. there was still some opportunity though!
in total we’d reckon we picked up about five twelfths of a bushel of stuff, mostly implements of restraint but also a nice little hitachi wand and some very aesthetically fitting garter straps. plus a few nipple clamps 'cause the sellers probably didn’t know they were also for similar activities.
I proudly show off our new spanking horse …
usually the university students here don’t have that much actual bondage stuff (mostly just penetrative toys) but perhaps they just might have these due to how nicely they look to work with those sex machines. we prioritize comfort so its probably wouldn’t really be our jam though? but who knows. or maybe it could be! only one way to find out ofc…
on the car’s roof rack
not owning a car, our options are really only the (fare-free) public transit bus or the bicycle and both of them seem equally funny to bring such a thing home by
I feel kinda bad for the sellers - I had to throw away all my toys at one point, at short notice, and it was shit :-(
I’ve never had a spanking horse of my own (or any big play furniture) but oh my dog they are such fun. They come in various levels of comfiness, so I wouldn’t sorry about that aspect too much if I were you
Thx a lot
Trip to your local sex shop?
This is a common point of discussion in my circle. Love throwing out this paper: Puppygirl Research thanks scientists! It’s like math or smth but it is very common for the community rn to enjoy puppygirl stufff
I’m disappointed it didn’t mention catgirls and how they relate to puppies. Meowing is just the standard greeting, regardless of if they’re a cat, a puppy, or none of the above.
Same!!! How could Jay do us dirty like that! She even made it sound like being a puppygirl might offer more liberation from patriarchy. There are some interviews on youtube but so far no one has asked her about catgirls! I’d almost email her, but surely her inbox is flooded with catgirl questions.
Edit: Wait! Jay recently gave a new interview! BDSM Practices in Contemporary Poland. Guess that’s what I’ll be listening to tomorrow…
this is very awesome ty for sharing <3
I would rather leash you, than to be leashed myself.
My experience of two trans women would seem to back up your theory. They also enjoyed being showed off, which was fun :-)
I’m transfemme and I don’t like being leashed. Well, except for Vivace. I usually like doing the leashing.
Hai
Hi precious, would you like Me to leash you?
🫦 👉 👈 Woof
Holds you still with My hands and slowly wraps a collar around your neck, taking a few moments to do up the clasp before attaching a leash to the collar.
Good puppy!
Rubs the top of your head.
The whole power dynamic bdsm thing is rather dull as far as I’m concerned.
It’s highly dependent on the participants being good at their roles and that is an incredibly difficult dynamic to put in place.
Sometimes … like all skills, it needs practice and willingness to learn. Also, humility to know when you don’t have the knack for a particular thing, which is why I stay in the gentler end these days.
Hmm, sex is supposed to be a recreational activity, not work. I’d rather skip the amateur dramatics and just engage in good ol’ fashioned oral. Always the most reliable way to make her sound like a brain damaged farm animal.
Oh, my sweet summer child. Being proud of being ignorant is not a great way to go through life.
It’s ok that you’re vanilla, it’s nothing to be ashamed of
It’s not ignorance. I’ve done a bunch of less vanilla stuff (probably a greater variety of things than most people) It just doesn’t interest me. I find it distracting and performative.
“Oh my god I’m so hot for you!”
“Wait a minute while I fetch 25 m of rope and check which of the toys are charged. Do you remember where I put the violet wand?”
“I think it’s in the drawer with the butt plugs”
15 minutes later your all set up and about to actually begin, and your youngest child wakes up because of all the noise you made setting up the st Andrews cross and starts banging on your door. It’s the only banging that’s happening that night.
Alternatively you don’t allow a cool down time while you get ready and just start eating her like a fat kid at an all you can eat cake buffet until she is reduced to a quivering mess unable to move and you both pass out from exhaustion in the wet patch. You can also just pick up where you left off any time during the night whenever one of you regains consciousness.
“It’s not ignorance.”
*Writes out a bunch of ignorant stuff *
Uhuh.
Ok, oh great and wise kink witch. What am I missing?
Well, thank you for letting us know. Your opinion is very important to the group.
