arm locks you, spins you half around, uses my shin to press on the back of one of your knees, takes you to your knees, and tickles you, not stopping for a good solid 3 minutes
Have we learned our lesson?
(i am of course presuming we’ve already set up safe words here)
pivots the rear arm lock to take you down to your back, as I move from behind you, to crawling/mounting over top of you. My forearm now pins your locked arm to ground, i am straddling your waist
I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.
I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .
All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.
Right?? It’s the bessst ugh. I’m a sucker for the “you’re a disgrace and I don’t know why I want you so badly” kind of trope haha, like someone is struggling to reconcile why they’re so attracted to such a loser 🤭
See now, as an actual switch… or… maybe just literally me (?)… I just actually do not enjoy verbally degrading people, makes me feel disgusted with myself.
I prefer simply demonstrating, practically, with controlled force, that you are at my mercy.
… you might be be able to mind game me out of that… but I would simply enjoy that.
Or you might be able to physically out do me, which I would also enjoy.
Not insults though. Genuine turn off for me, giving them or recieving them. Taunts? Dares? Absolutely. Degradation? … find another switch-dom.
Now… learning what you like, and withholding it from you? That I can do.
But… specifically punishing someone with something they do consent to, but causes them genuine discomfort, significant pain or panic?
Can’t do it. Too much of genuinely nice person, or something.
That makes total sense! To be fair I’d only do degradation with the most trusted of partners because it needs to come from someone of whose opinion of me i am well aware. Most of the time I’m just a competitive brat hahaha
Really love a switchy physical power dynamic where power shifts between both partners.
The mind games and degradation are for a very specific type of itch, however (hint: it’s trauma).
Oh I’m not even trying to judge you or anything, you don’t need to justify anything to me, I just… I am only mean to people I genuinely dislike or hate or despise in some way, or have done something severe, of the same description.
To me that seems like the antithesis of … love or just enjoying another person’s body… frankly it would make me feel like a rapist, to be intentionally viciously cruel.
Had … a few people in my life ask for that, and I just actually couldn’t do it… fucking broke down crying, actually.
I don’t know how to pretend to be… viciously, overwhelmingly cruel. I only know how to actually be that way, and I never want to be that way.
… i guess I’m saying I’m a method actor, in bed … ?
I know plenty of people like that, and I don’t think that’s wrong, that’s probably how we should think about that stuff lol. It should be difficult to be or pretend to be cruel to a person.
Tbh I may be a bit fucked up, but it’s in a fun way, at least, lol. Results in some wires crossed and makes me want that kind of treatment, but in a context where the type and amount of treatment I receive is in my control, as a sub.
So, the biiig reason I am capable of cruelty when in a dom position is that I understand how it feels as a sub to want to be on the receiving end of it, and how much it can actually help in a therapeutic sense when the proper before and after care is taken. So I guess what im saying is I can tell how much they want it, I can tell how much they enjoy it, and I would never dream of treating a person like that if they didn’t actively want it. Like I said in another comment, I enjoy when my partner is enjoying themself.
Edit: Oh! I also wanted to add, gender power dynamics also play a huge role when dominating men, and a LOT of men like being degraded by women because it’s a response to a society that constantly teaches them to treat women like objects, yknow?
This is way too true. Also switches are the cruelest doms (in the best way)
… you rang?
🤭
… did I give you permission to giggle?
Here, I’ll make you giggle.
arm locks you, spins you half around, uses my shin to press on the back of one of your knees, takes you to your knees, and tickles you, not stopping for a good solid 3 minutes
Have we learned our lesson?
(i am of course presuming we’ve already set up safe words here)
Haha oh no I am feeling particularly bratty 😅
I have learned no lesson so long as I can still breathe
… Well, then it sounds like you need to be not able to breathe very well.
Maybe by stuffing your mouth full of… a lesson, that will discipline you.
And, you are already on your knees.
… what say you?
🤭
… tsk tsk.
You still don’t have permission to giggle.
pivots the rear arm lock to take you down to your back, as I move from behind you, to crawling/mounting over top of you. My forearm now pins your locked arm to ground, i am straddling your waist
… It’s simple.
You just have to ask permission.
Let’s see if you can.
commence passionate liplock and tongue jousting
Oh my, this is a public forum and I am on main 👀
not me
i have no idea how to be cruel in an enjoyable hot way
when dominating, i am quite soft
I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.
I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .
All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.
OwO
need need need need need need
Right?? It’s the bessst ugh. I’m a sucker for the “you’re a disgrace and I don’t know why I want you so badly” kind of trope haha, like someone is struggling to reconcile why they’re so attracted to such a loser 🤭
See now, as an actual switch… or… maybe just literally me (?)… I just actually do not enjoy verbally degrading people, makes me feel disgusted with myself.
I prefer simply demonstrating, practically, with controlled force, that you are at my mercy.
… you might be be able to mind game me out of that… but I would simply enjoy that.
Or you might be able to physically out do me, which I would also enjoy.
Not insults though. Genuine turn off for me, giving them or recieving them. Taunts? Dares? Absolutely. Degradation? … find another switch-dom.
Now… learning what you like, and withholding it from you? That I can do.
But… specifically punishing someone with something they do consent to, but causes them genuine discomfort, significant pain or panic?
Can’t do it. Too much of genuinely nice person, or something.
That makes total sense! To be fair I’d only do degradation with the most trusted of partners because it needs to come from someone of whose opinion of me i am well aware. Most of the time I’m just a competitive brat hahaha
Really love a switchy physical power dynamic where power shifts between both partners.
The mind games and degradation are for a very specific type of itch, however (hint: it’s trauma).
Oh I’m not even trying to judge you or anything, you don’t need to justify anything to me, I just… I am only mean to people I genuinely dislike or hate or despise in some way, or have done something severe, of the same description.
To me that seems like the antithesis of … love or just enjoying another person’s body… frankly it would make me feel like a rapist, to be intentionally viciously cruel.
Had … a few people in my life ask for that, and I just actually couldn’t do it… fucking broke down crying, actually.
I don’t know how to pretend to be… viciously, overwhelmingly cruel. I only know how to actually be that way, and I never want to be that way.
… i guess I’m saying I’m a method actor, in bed … ?
I know plenty of people like that, and I don’t think that’s wrong, that’s probably how we should think about that stuff lol. It should be difficult to be or pretend to be cruel to a person.
Tbh I may be a bit fucked up, but it’s in a fun way, at least, lol. Results in some wires crossed and makes me want that kind of treatment, but in a context where the type and amount of treatment I receive is in my control, as a sub.
So, the biiig reason I am capable of cruelty when in a dom position is that I understand how it feels as a sub to want to be on the receiving end of it, and how much it can actually help in a therapeutic sense when the proper before and after care is taken. So I guess what im saying is I can tell how much they want it, I can tell how much they enjoy it, and I would never dream of treating a person like that if they didn’t actively want it. Like I said in another comment, I enjoy when my partner is enjoying themself.
Edit: Oh! I also wanted to add, gender power dynamics also play a huge role when dominating men, and a LOT of men like being degraded by women because it’s a response to a society that constantly teaches them to treat women like objects, yknow?
yeah i once had to stop when punishing a partner because genuine hurtful wrath emerged in me
i prefer to submit :3
need to be someones perfect little puppy and be someones pathetic shameful addiction
ig the balance is to be different with different partners :3
Shameful addiction is a phrase that perks my Lil ears up hahaha
OwO
^ o_o ^
I can only hope that Banana and I are… currently demonstrating at least one way of going about this.
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