Personally I think not having karma limits is nice currently! I understand why they were used but grinding karma as a lurker on reddit was frustrating.

    • @gronapa@lemmy.fmhy.mlOP
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      Yea that seems like something that started showing up more as time went on and more users joined. The trends and jokes did get tiring.

    • @hllywluis@sh.itjust.works
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      This. I usually try to avoid commenting just “This” and try to give more explanation why I’m saying that. Feel like that’s the proper way of doing it.

      • @gronapa@lemmy.fmhy.mlOP
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        Personally I am commenting and posting much more now than ever on reddit. I want to transition to lemmy and see it grow as I refuse to use the Android reddit app.

        I am not typing/imagining a comment and then not posting it here either like many people do on reddit. It seems like a good time to become less of a lurker.

        • @hllywluis@sh.itjust.works
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          Agreed, especially with how new Lemmy is, it just really feels like it needs our engagement to succeed and get more people to join.

          • @Coolbootyjames@lemmy.ml
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            I remember when I first got on reddit, it was still bigger than lemmy is now, but it still felt small enough that commenting actually felt worthwhile. Definitely excited to be here. Tryna engage as much as possible so people feel there’s a community to join

        • @Candid_Technology_66@lemmy.ml
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          If I’m not mistaken, because lemmy by default sorts comments by newest, if you comment something more users will see it, but on reddit it’ll get stuck at the bottom.

        • @PapaTorque@lemmy.world
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          Yeah. Honestly I’m way more active here. Granted my whole time on the fediverse is like a week or two, but Ive made more comments today than I have in like a decade on reddit. I could easily see myself not returning to reddit.

    • comfy
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      The comment “this” comes from sites that don’t have votes. The equivalent here is voting. It really is that simple.

    • autumnplains
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      Agree. Kind of relatedly, anyone know what boost does versus an upvote?

      • ShittyKopper [they/them]
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        Assuming they use Mastodon terminology it likely means the same thing as a retweet.

        (For anyone confused, OP’s using kbin, not Lemmy)

  • @koncertejo@lemmy.ml
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    Reddit has a longstanding reputation for being a hive of scum and villainy (like hosting the_donald for years, or kotakuinaction, etc). I really hope that Lemmy keeps with the general left-leaning vibes of the fediverse overall, hopefully being a good space for queer people, women, people of colour, etc.

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      I think you do have to be careful here though. If you’re too permissive you allow bigotry, but if you’re too restrictive you cut off honest, good faith debate and create echo chamber silos where beliefs are never challenged.

      Bigotry should never be accepted but that means non-discriminatory opinions, especially ones you disagree with, should be allowed.

      • CynAq
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        Good faith is the key here. I’m all for disagreements leading to lengthy discussions and even some controversy as long as everyone is arguing in good faith.

        I can’t stand trolling, outright bigotry, and the normalization of literal fascist opinions as a mere “disagreement”. If a “disagreement” (you know which ones I mean) will lead to people dying if enabled, I’m pretty happy keeping those ideas out.

        • lobemanet
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          Gender critical ideas are based on truth and reality. If those ideas are censored here that would be terrible.

          • @koncertejo@lemmy.ml
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            Hi! I’m trans. If you’re looking to change your mind about that I’m happy to chat! Otherwise I suggest you look to get out of here as soon as possible.

            • lobemanet
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              Hi! I’m gender critical. If you’re looking to change your mind about that I’m happy to chat! Otherwise I suggest you look to get out of here as soon as possible.

          • @dannoffs@lemmy.sdf.org
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            That’s the beautiful thing about being a federated platform. You can create your own island and fill it with all the hatred and bad “science” you want. it’s worked for the British for centuries.

            • lobemanet
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              No hatred here. Just leave the kids and women spaces alone.

          • sparky@lemmy.pt
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            I’ve never understood the need to militantly oppose others’ personal situations when they have no impact on your own. Even playing devil’s advocate - what is the point of the hate? You don’t believe in gender identity, then don’t personally be trans. The fact that others may be would seem to have literally zero impact on you or your life. Why should Lemmy accommodate negativity that does real harm to people in sensitive circumstances?

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      /r/jailbait needed a spotlight in the national news from Anderson Cooper to get dealt with.

      But (allowing for the fact that I’m still learning) by its nature I’m not sure the fediverse can stop these things in total, but the particular instances you subscribe to can. I’m unclear if INDIVIDUALS can ban instances (as far as I can tell they cannot) which I think might be a good addition. But instances can ban other instances, and eventually the fediverse will figure out which instances to put in the time-out corner for the rest of us, I think. But it will take time and might be a bit of wack-a-mole.

      • Melmi
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        I think this is the big thing that Fediverse platforms are missing right now. If you want to be able to ban instances yourself, you have to run your own.

    • RedditTransfer
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      That would be nice but these platforms with “instances” look like it’s a Reddit on steroids. I don’t see how a community could be shut down with the way it’s setup currently. I’m a complete newbie though so don’t rely on my unprofessional observations.

      • Justin
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        Your instance can ban the offending instances, so they won’t show up for you or your fellow users, and vice versa. It provides a good way to exile the offending community.

          • Justin
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            I honestly have no idea. I’m just running my own instance so I’ll just ban any users from my federation feed if I need to.

            If you check the modlog, you can see what mods/admins have been doing recently (note that there is potentially offensive content there)

      • Kichae
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        Communities can’t be shut down, but they can be shut out. This is also just true in life in general.

        If The_Donald were to set up shop on Lemmy.ml, they could ban the instance and the members, but they could just turn around and join another instance.

        So, what do you do then? Site admins can ban the remote instance, and they can put pressure on the hosting site admins by threatening to defederate.

        Let’s say the new hosting site’s admin gives into defederation pressure and also bans the instance and its members. We’ll, then those people can set up their own server. Now, the admin won ban them.

        But none of the major servers will federated with them. They’ll be alone on their low population fashy instance (or not so low population - Truth Social is suppsoey the biggest Mastodon instance), effectively quarantined.

        That’s the best anyone can do. That’s true with or without Lemmy.

  • @itchy_lizard@lemmy.ml
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    Posting pictures too much, including pictures of tweets or pictures of news headlines.

    Please link to the fucking article.

    • comfy
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      Yes! Many sumbreddits that actually had a point and were dare-I-say educational quickly became just twitter sceencap platitudes, on repeat.

      I get it, easy to read and agree with and upboat, but ultimately just dumbing the place down to the lowest common denominator and burying anything with effort or insight.

  • lobemanet
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    Upvote/downvote counts mangling. Just show the real numbers, don’t mess with them with an unknown “algorithm”.

    • @starrox@lemmy.ml
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      As far as I can see, the real number is already on top of the post. And then you have the split of up/downvotes near the arrows. So the “algorithm” is just basic addidion and subtraction. Someone correct me if I saw something wrong…

      • bappity
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        I think they’re referring to what Reddit did with not showing them separately

  • croobat
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    Can’t wait for the screenshot of a Reddit post of a Lemmy post of an Instagram post about Elon tweeting some shit.

  • @taladar@sh.itjust.works
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    Getting banned in one subreddit you never participated in for daring to have a comment (regardless of the content of that comment) in another subreddit.

    • @deegeese@sopuli.xyz
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      I see the same shit in the Fediverse though. Mastodon admins blocking a server just because they refused to participate in a shared block list.

      Someone’s going to make a script to ban a non-local user based on your remote posts, I guarantee it.

      • @teawrecks@sopuli.xyz
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        Isn’t the federated model specifically designed as a solution to undesired moderation? If a server is ban happy, users won’t go there. Problem solved?

        • @oakley@lemmy.world
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          The fact that opening a new instance still requires some technical knowledge is a difficulty facing the fediverse, since the venn diagram of people with the time and know-how to manage server administration and people who are knowledgeable on community moderation aren’t always two concentric circles.

          • @teawrecks@sopuli.xyz
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            But that’s not a task that is asked of a general user, even if their goal is to switch servers. If you don’t like gmail, the solution for an individual is almost never to start your own email server.

            • @oakley@lemmy.world
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              Correct. What i’m saying is that since federated networks tend to be more community run initiatives, moderators are gonna be people from within the community and the final say on moderation issues is gonna come from those who understand how the fediverse works and have done the work of setting up the servers that everyone is using. Which I’m sure can and has worked for plenty of Mastodon and Lemmy instances out there, but I’m sure there’s also instances where the head admin simply went haywire one day and nuked everything. It’s not that the system can’ work, it’s just that it isn’t really designed to gravitate towards experienced trust and safety experts being the ones that important decisions fall upon.

              I feel like I should clarify that I have nothing against any Lemmy mods or admins. They’re all being cool and helpful with onboarding reddit refugees like myself. I just think that this is an important thing to think about if we want this place to support more and more people and a growing number of communities in the future.

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              I get you. But I’ve seen far too many users doing exactly this (starting their own mail server) in my programming circles. It doesn’t fare well tbh.

  • @fruitywelsh@lemmy.ml
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    Mod culture is always odd to me. I kind of wish there was more community modderation, and less dictators for life running things.

    • Scrubbles
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      I know with mine that’s the approach I’m taking. Let the community dictate rules rather than power tripping mods

    • @gronapa@lemmy.fmhy.mlOP
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      Definitely a problem that comes with reddit and the unique subreddit names I’d say. I feel like that may not be avoided here since moving many subscribers from a large->small community is so difficult. Maybe the federation style will be successful though, I can’t say I have enough experience to predict that well.

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        To be honest, I don’t think that’s entirely just a Reddit thing. Power tripping mods have been around as long as Internet forums have in general. It’s a tough one to combat for sure.

        • @taladar@sh.itjust.works
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          As have complaints about legitimate mods from people who got banned. It is a complex issue even just to get the facts of the matter. Maybe some sort of public log of all mod messages and actions would help with that but then one would have to ensure that the people who like the deleted messages don’t just use the mod log as their new place to spread the content.

    • @DevCat@lemmy.world
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      Shadowbans especially. Either ban a post or not, but don’t make the poster think everyone can still see it without explanation.

    • Andreas
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      The Fediverse already has these, there are lots of echo chamber instances that automatically block other instances for simply federating with the “wrong” instance (equivalent to those AutoMod bans on Reddit for posting in a certain subreddit). Since instance admins pay for their instances out of pocket, they are more restrictive with their instance’s allowed content than social media websites that want to cast the widest net. Eventually, there will be a massive split between communities, like how conservative and progressive Mastodon instances all block each other. Centrists can just have an account on each side of the wall.

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    As a new community we need to identify and stamp out bad actors immediately and thoroughly (spammers, selfservers, ads disguised as posts, brigading, illegal content, racism, you get the idea).
    We can’t control if they create their own instances, but we can isolate them.

      • @leanleft@lemmy.ml
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        this seems to be a good place to mention avoiding groupthink and trendy opinions. more fresh diverisity and bold independent thinkers.
        a flood of general americans would be worse than cultivating a niche counterculture initial userbase.

  • DarkThoughts
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    Bullshit moderation.
    Reddit was so full of hateful shit. Reddit’s AEO (Anti Evil Operations, basically the admins personal “mod team”, probably outsourced to some country with lacking English skills) would continue to tell me that the most blatant hateful comments do not violate Reddit’s ToS. Meanwhile, you get (perma) banned for the most ridiculous & mundane things at times, like saying that a fascist Italy should get kicked out of the EU & NATO. Apparently this is considered “spreading hate” and they even denied my appeal, explaining that both institutions require the members to be democratic. Meanwhile all the racism on subs like /r/europe would go unpunished. I also tried to report similar comments to mine as hate, but containing less popular countries like Turkey, and unsurprisingly they also didn’t see it as hate.

    Getting harassed by other users that reply on all your comments & follow you around? Nope, no violation.
    Questioning the title & picture relation of a governmental account? Apparently harassment / bullying worth a 7 day ban.
    Calling out dehumanization? Perma ban in a sub.
    Perma ban in a sub? Perma ban in another sub for complaining about it, for “ban evasion”.
    Speaking out against predatory monetization methods & FOMO tactics in modern video games? Getting attacked & insulted by users and consequently perma banned for being “an asshole troll” - none of the attacks & insults were removed, let alone punished.

    What isn’t a violation? Racism, transphobia, homophobia, calls for violence, etc.
    In regards to big hate subs it is also mostly the case that Reddit only goes and does something against them when there’s some sort of media attention around it. When it directly affects their potential income. Maybe if advertisers start to complain about it.

    The enforcement of the rules is so random at this point that I don’t even know what one is allowed to say, or why I even should care about accounts and the platform as a whole. I understand that moderation of big platforms is not an easy task, but one surely can do better than whatever the hell Reddit is doing nowadays.

    In regards to specifically Lemmy I would say they aren’t up to a good start with the controversial admin team and their extremist views.

    • EnglishMobster
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      The nice thing about federation is that you can always go somewhere else if you disagree with a particular instance.

      Lemmy’s devs have questionable politics at best. IMO, I don’t care as long as it doesn’t impact how they run the site - people have a right to their own opinions, as long as those opinions don’t harass or hurt others directly.

      But let’s say they changed one day. Maybe one day they added something to the code forcing everyone to praise the CCP or else.

      Because the software is open-source - people could fork it before the change. It’s out there already. People can totally make their own little variants of Lemmy with added features, if that’s something they wanted to do. You can modify the code yourself and then self-host the modified version. No matter what Lemmy’s devs do… they have no power on your instance. A fork means you own the code.

      I’ve seen the sentiment tossed around that it’s unethical to use Lemmy because if you donate to the project (or contribute to donations towards the project) you are financing people who have bad politics. That’s your prerogative. I personally disagree - again, as long as your politics aren’t actively contributing to harassment/harm you shouldn’t be punished for them - but I understand the sentiment.

      To that, I say - well, there’s other options. That’s the beauty of the Fediverse - you don’t have any Musk or Spez that comes along to ruin everything. I’m on Kbin, which I like a lot. The dev is a great guy, and I really like how it combines the best of Lemmy and Mastodon.

      Even if you want to stay on Lemmy, there are wonderful communities on Lemmy that disagree with the direction of the devs. Beehaw is a great place with a fantastic mod team, for example. You can donate to Beehaw’s devs and know it’s going to keep Beehaw running, and it’s not the same as supporting Lemmy directly.

      • ShittyKopper [they/them]
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        Because the software is open-source - people could fork it before the change. It’s out there already. People can totally make their own little variants of Lemmy with added features, if that’s something they wanted to do. You can modify the code yourself and then self-host the modified version. No matter what Lemmy’s devs do… they have no power on your instance. A fork means you own the code.

        People are already doing so, right now. AFAIK Lemmy by default doesn’t have the ability to disable downvoting, yet Beehaw and the instance I’m on (among others, probably) do have downvoting disabled.

      • @Frigidlollipop@lemmy.ml
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        Wow, thank you for this post. Doing some reading on Lemmy’s devs’ attitude toward human rights, and… I think I’ll check out Kbin. Thanks again, I had no idea!

    • SanguinePar
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      What’s the story about the Lemmy admins? Hadn’t heard anything about that.

      • Christian
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        I’ve been on lemmy for about three years and the admins have been phenomenal. The interactions I’ve had and seen with them have been well-reasoned and positive.

    • @gnuhaut@lemmy.ml
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      Oh you were on a roll with this one but crashed right into a corner at the end there, lol.

  • @gronapa@lemmy.fmhy.mlOP
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    Realized another - the awards that reddit created were out of control. I didn’t mind avatars too much since customization can be fun and it was optional, but the awards are spammed and shown on most reddit clients.

    • Communist
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      I actually support awards here with the option of hiding them, i think it’d be a good, relatively ethical way to monetize lemmy.

      • Drew Got No Clue
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        It could be in cool (in the future) to have a donate button instead, so to support users who are posting great content

        On the other hand, donating to lemmy should be separate (the way it is now) and not a cut of those donations to users

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          I always thought it would be cool if awards meant something, like a donation to an NGO of the user’s choosing (from a list of 20 or so to reduce complexity). Lemmy could be one of the options but not the only option (like it was for Reddit) that the money would go to. I feel like more people would buy and give awards if that were the case.

      • @gronapa@lemmy.fmhy.mlOP
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        I felt the move of making reddit silver a real award was a big shift. Newer users don’t even get why reddit silver was a thing.

        I do like the idea of optional visibility - awards certain;y don’t have to be bloat/bad.

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          Reddit Silver being an award just completely stole all the magic out of it. It was a cute little memey way to show support and make fun of Reddit Golf and then it got turned into a way to put more money in Reddit’s pocket :c

      • autumnplains
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        Yeah that’s a really good point. Maybe a portion of the award funds for a given post could go to that post’s creator’s server and a portion to a pooled fund for all servers/servers reaching capacity?

        Of course this and any other ideas re monitising should be carefully thought out re perverse incentives 😬

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      Awards were fine when there was only three of them: gold, silver, platinum. Once they added twenty billion, all meaning the awards once had were lost, especially since many of them were given to users for free when they were once paid only.

  • @JasSmith@lemmy.ml
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    Censorship. All the major subreddits became political echo-chambers. Reddit was founded on free speech and open discourse, especially when it was really uncomfortable. I’d love to see the same for Lemmy. Over the years I’ve seen authoritarianism creep into the moderation policies of most major subreddits. Today, even posting on the wrong subreddit is grounds for being banned from dozens of major subreddits. Even having a polite disagreement about, for example, anything to do with “trans,” is grounds for being banned.

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        So the one thing on Reddit that you wish to leave behind is mods deleting transphobic comments? Lol

        Would you please quote where I wrote that?

        • Discoslugs
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          Can you be more specific about the type of authoritarianisms you wish to avoid?

          Many centrist are closet transphobes and often use the verbage of authoritarianism as a dog whistle.

          • Bernie Ecclestoned
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            I’m a centrist with a trans kid and no issues beyond worrying how they’ll be treated by transphobes

            Being a centriphobe is still bigotry

            • Discoslugs
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              “Being a centriphobe is still bigotry”

              Generally it’s not bigotry when your critizes peoples choices. It’s usually reserved for things people can’t change. Like their race.

              Example

              “Centrist ideas are usually not well thought out”

              See this isn’t bigotry because you could have better ideas.

              I’m glad your good with your trans kid tho.

          • @Faendol@sh.itjust.works
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            I definitely get what you mean and I think the idea that you can get away with no censorship is naive. However, they could just as easily be talking about r/conservatives use of conservative only posts and their banning of anyone sharing opposing viewpoints.

      • @JasSmith@lemmy.ml
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        I’m sorry I’m not sure how else to describe it. Trans people are those who believe their sex doesn’t match how they feel inside.

          • I’d say that a fairly debated topic related to transgender people, which isn’t just transphobes attacking people trying to live their own life, is the presence of transgender athletes in competitions. Some will take it as a personal attack whether you take a side or sit on the fence. I’m not looking to start that conversation here, but yeah. It’s definitely possible to hold a polite conversation about this while disagreeing on parts of the question. In a healthy space.

            • @Landrin201@lemmy.ml
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              the presence of transgender athletes in competitions

              I disagree, that isn’t a “polite disagreement” and is, absolutely, “just transphobes attacking people trying to live their own life” as you put it. Every time that “Argument” happens it’s openly done in biologically unfounded ways by people who simply don’t understand how our bodies actually work- yet those arguments get mass upvoted by people who also don’t understand how biology actually works and who believe that trans athletes get some insane, unfair advantage.

              If you want to pass laws to restrict trans people from sports, then you want to pass laws to discriminate against trans people. That’s not really up for debate IMO, it’s a straight up fact; it’s what you’re doing when you advocate for laws that are not founded in science, that are specifically targeting a tiny minority for the chance that one of that tiny minority might beat cis athletes in an “unfair” way, you’re advocating for bigoted laws.

              Such arguments are also inevietably filled with people misgendering trans people, deliberately calling trans women “men” and hiding behind the “I’m talking about biology” argument to do so.

              Replace the word “trans” with “black” and you’ll find that people are making literally identical arguments to those against desegregating professional sports leagues 80 years ago. Literally word for word.

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                The thing I don’t understand around it is that the people who are making the argument “trans people shouldn’t be able to participate in sports” are usually also people who are not interested in the sport at all. As in are they upset because someone on the telly told them to, but they really don’t care about the sport except in this very niche aspect which impacts a very slight minority of participants. I mean would half the US public be very interested in the deep technicalities of competitive high-school running?

                Same with HRT. Why do I even have to know about it? It’s a niche medical treatment for a comparatively small amount of people suffering from some very specific conditions. I can barely understand what the difference is between ibuprofen and paracetamol, and I’m sure most people are even less informed. Why is it not the sole interest of people affected by gender dysphoria (IDK if I’m even spelling or saying it right, sorry for my ignorance), and their doctors?

                The thing that actually grinds my gears is that this culture war stuff takes over places and trans people have to get defensive over their existence, and a forum on fricking Bionicle gets full of trans memes. Don’t get me wrong, if you’re a trans person, or a Zulu, or IDK what niche minority, and you’ve made a Bionicle that uniquely represents you, I’m going to upvote that shit so hard since it’s frickin awesome. But having the whole place be full of low effort “trans people are people” memes is about as funny or interesting as having the whole place full of “the sky is blue” memes.

                People are getting outraged about what some socially disadvantaged minority is doing with their lives instead of actually contributing to society, because some idiotic grifter TV host told them to. Fucking lemmings.

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                Every time that “Argument” happens it’s openly done in biologically unfounded ways by people who simply don’t understand how our bodies actually work.

                I’ll be the first to admit I don’t know how our bodies work, but I think explaining it will be more helpful in the long run than just making the subject taboo and banning everyone who asks it.

                At the beginning of the pandemic a common argument against masks was “the virus is too small to be caught in a mask” - which made sense from a layman’s point of view. When people started explaining that masks did stop the water droplets the virus needs to be airborne - that argument become a lot less common.

                Not everybody who has questions is “just asking questions”, if you catch my drift.

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                  Not everybody who has questions is “just asking questions”, if you catch my drift.

                  I agree with that statement, context is everything.

                  I think that in the context of someone starting out going “it’s unfair for men to compete in women’s sports,” the person is “just asking questions.” That context poisons the well for questions.

                  But if someone comes in and makes a thread like “I don’t understand how hormone therapy works, can someone please explain it?” that, to me, is a good faith question and 100% should not be bannable.

            • @PlasmaK@lemmy.ml
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              I think that after HRT the difference is not that big. Trans athletes may even be at the disadvantage since there are some cis woman that have higher than average amount of testosterone.

              In the long shot I think it would be for the best to abolish gender based separation altogether and replace it with something more like weight categories.

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                Consider two 5’6" 65kg athletes, one man and one woman, are you saying that the man doesn’t have an advantage?

                I used to believe the same until I saw the recent Women’s Premier League in Cricket. They had to reduce the size of field and the weight of ball. Even with that, the fastest bowl in the tournament was 130kmph while that speed is considered a “slower ball” in men’s cricket.

                Now some of these female cricketers earm more than any Pakistani male cricketers. Which is fair, bigger market, bigger payout. But female cricketers don’t stand a chance against the male cricketers

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                  Consider two 5’6" 65kg athletes, one man and one woman, are you saying that the man doesn’t have an advantage?

                  No, my MMA teacher was female and she’d kick my arse regularly

                  They had to reduce the size of field and the weight of ball. Even with that, the fastest bowl in the tournament was 130kmph

                  Now you’re undermining your first point, you’re not comparing same heights and weight. Physics is real.

                • @PlasmaK@lemmy.ml
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                  Here is a surprise for you: HRT actually does things to your body. I don’t think this should have been that hard to find on your own, but I can’t judge your circumstances.

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                There are things that don’t completely change with HRT (particularly when started after puberty.) Height, bone density, lung capacity, hand/foot/limb size etc. do not vary significantly after HRT and depending on the sport can make a huge difference (eg. Hand and foot size or lung capacity in swimming even where the two swimmers are the same height.)

          • @JasSmith@lemmy.ml
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            Are you genuinely interested or just looking to start a fight? I know recreational outrage is a thing on Reddit and I had hoped to leave it there.

              • @JasSmith@lemmy.ml
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                No worries. Sorry for being defensive. I’ve received death threats before so you can imagine my reticence to speak freely.

                Forgive the brevity. The topic is quite personal to me. I had a trans person in my family until recently. They committed suicide. I took it upon myself to research the topic to the best of my abilities. My current stance is that, while I support the right for adults to do with their body as they wish, I do not support the practise of transitioning children; be it medically or socially. In all my research I couldn’t find a single study, anywhere, demonstrating an objective quality of life improvement. These would be measurable metrics like:

                • Life expectancy.
                • Suicide rate.
                • Rates of addiction.
                • Health outcomes such as reduced rates of obesity and heart attacks.
                • Rates of crime.
                • Rates of homelessness.
                • Rates of victimisation (rape, assault, etc.).
                • Income.
                • Wealth.

                It’s not for lack of trying, either. I’ve never seen so much funding go to any single topic in academia. Given this lack of evidence, researchers turned to subjective measures of improvement. The primary being “suicidality.” They ask subjects how they feel about suicide. This is an effective proxy for, “are you happy with the major medical procedure you just asked for?” Unsurprisingly, this is subject to enormous bias.

                Instead, I found evidence that not transitioning is a much better, much more effective treatment for children. This study found that only 37% of children still identified as dysphoric five years later. This study found that 88% had desisted (they were no longer dysphoric). This mirrors other historical research into various areas of child psychology. Children frequently change identity and beliefs around identity.

                The primary arguments appear to be, a) if we don’t transition children, they will commit suicide. As above, I believe this is false. The second premise is, b) puberty blockers are completely reversible. This isn’t true either. These are the expected side effects of puberty blockers:

                Common side effects of the GnRH agonists and antagonists include symptoms of hypogonadism such as hot flashes, gynecomastia, fatigue, weight gain, fluid retention, erectile dysfunction and decreased libido. Long term therapy can result in metabolic abnormalities, weight gain, worsening of diabetes and osteoporosis. Rare, but potentially serious adverse events include transient worsening of prostate cancer due to surge in testosterone with initial injection of GnRH agonists and pituitary apoplexy in patients with pituitary adenoma. Single instances of clinically apparent liver injury have been reported with some GnRH agonists (histrelin, goserelin), but the reports were not very convincing. There is no evidence to indicate that there is cross sensitivity to liver injury among the various GnRH analogues despite their similarity in structure. There is also a report that GnRH agonists used in the treatment of advanced prostate cancer may increase the risk of heart problems by 30%.

                Osteoporosis and diabetes are absolutely life altering. Sweden went all-in on “temporary” puberty blockers for gender affirming care until children started experiencing life-long injuries. They are now effectively banned for gender affirming care for children.

                In one particularly shocking case, a girl who wanted to become a boy began taking hormone-blocking drugs at just 11-years-old. Almost five years after the treatment began, the puberty-pausing drugs induced osteoporosis and permanently damaged the teen’s vertebrae, severely limiting the teen’s mobility.

                “When we asked him regularly how his back felt, he said: ‘I’m in pain all the time’,” she added.

                Further, there is a growing body of evidence to show high risk of infertility after prolonged use of these drugs.

                And these are just the dangerous irreversible side effects. The cosmetic side effects are devastating, and include men with child-sized penises and testicles, and women without breasts. This is one such case. The teenager had taken puberty blockers, resulting in a small penis. With insufficient penile tissue, doctors attempted to remove and use part of his colon to create a fake vagina. He died less than a day later from complications.

                Ultimately, I believe I am very open to evidence. I have reached my position precisely by pouring over research. I am open to honest discussion and debate. I don’t belittle or minimise anyone’s experiences or beliefs. I simply want the best outcomes for children. For this opinion, I have been banned on many subreddits. I have been sent death threats. I have been called every disgusting name in the dictionary, and then more. I hope that Lemmy is a place which allows respectful discussion.

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                  What the hell is this? Trans person here. This is not the thread to start concern trolling about trans issues. If you really want a space to talk freely about your concerns you can start a community or even your own instance.

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                  @dessalines@lemmy.ml this is exactly why tone policing is bullshit moderation policy.

                  Your modteam is allowing this transphobic screed to exist, and has in fact unbanned the user that posted it despite the very very obvious fact that they are a transphobe doing concern-trolling and “just asking questions” style veiled bigotry, while simultaneously banning everyone that has reacted to their behaviour by rightfully calling them the names they deserve to be called.

                  This policymaking is what results in people in the left calling someone a terf or a fascist getting banned while the fascists and terfs roam free. The site will be taken over by this and the left will slowly be banned and pushed out by it. The fact that the team can’t seem to get into their heads that trans people might get a little fucking heated when bigots are allowed to exist and clearly defended by some of the incompetent members the modteam is another part of the problem.

                  You should get some trans people on your team to keep the rest of the idiots on it making these shit decisions in check. This nerd should absolutely be rebanned and every other person that copped a ban over this shit should be unbanned.

                • @TheOubliette@lemmy.ml
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                  @dessalines@lemmy.ml please reconsider reprioritizing civility fetishism, particularly in defense against transphobia. The course of events here was extremely uncool and is tantamount to making this space systemically transphobic.

                  All it will take to drive trans people off is for you to ban them when they defend themselves against transphobic hate. And all it will take for transphobes to make that happen is for transphobes to harass people here until they react. This pattern has happened many times on many platforms and I’m surprised if you’re not aware of it.

                • In all my research I couldn’t find a single study, anywhere, demonstrating an objective quality of life improvement.

                  You’re saying you haven’t found any evidence and that proves there isn’t improvement but it’s impossible for any properly done study to prove any changes to those categories. The simple reason is there is no environment that has existed for long enough to do a comparison. It’s impossible to conduct a proper study on the life expectancy of trans people if they transition at 12 years old or 20 years old because the treatments have not been around long enough and people can live a long time. Even a study that tracks suicide rates over 5 years based on treatment type takes much more than 5 years.

                  The only studies that can be done need to use historic data and we can’t change the past plus retroactive comparisons are super dicey and very prone to bias. Remember how dead patients were added post-moterm to that COVID trial published from Egypt which totally skewed the results? That study lead to large numbers of people taking ivermectin and fueled the antivax movement worldwide https://www.medpagetoday.com/special-reports/exclusives/93658

                  The absence of research studies can not be used to prove or disprove something and should not form your opinions based on this. As least people aren’t trying and doing it poorly then people write catchy articles about it and it creates whole industries (I’m looking at you, nutritional science).

    • @nivenkos@lemmy.ml
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      That’s the same here unfortunately.

      It also sucks when you’re not American, like Reddit auto-banned a load of Irish and Brits discussing stopping smoking due to the colloquial term there.

      Unfortunately all these American-based websites really force the American views and positions on everyone.

      • @JasSmith@lemmy.ml
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        Well that explains it. I’m not American either and I really feel like I’m being forced into their weird social war. I just want to talk about cool gadgets without some culture warrior banning me everywhere because I didn’t show the requisite fealty to whatever the current thing is.

        • @goddamnpipes@lemmy.world
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          Yeah, one thing I hope to leave behind with Reddit is every major subreddit farming outrage w.r.t. American politics.

          It just became exhausting and made me unsub from a lot of the big subreddits. So far, Lemmy has been quite positive! It’s refreshing.

          • @Peereboominc@lemmy.world
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            I don’t know if it is true but I feel like Lemmy is not really USA centric at the moment. More like assuming that a user could be from any country. I think that we should keep it that way.

    • @pingveno@lemmy.ml
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      Even having a polite disagreement about, for example, anything to do with “trans,” is grounds for being banned.

      A subreddit I moderate, /r/moderatepolitics, has had to do a delicate balancing act around this. There are site-wide rules banning many statements around trans people, and the red lines are not well defined. Reddit’s “Anti-Evil Operations” (site-wide moderation team) frequently swoops in and deletes comments that are offensive to trans people, but well within current political discourse in the US. That has undermined our mission of being a forum for diverse voices to hold productive but difficult discussions. At a certain point, we entirely banned the discussion of trans issues because one side was able to speak freely and the other side was walking on egg shells. I’m solidly pro-trans, but that’s no way to have a conversation.

      This likely was done to try to keep Reddit from becoming a cesspool like the “free speech” sites like Gab, but it has turned out to be a lazy way that short circuits necessary conversations.

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        There is only one necessary converation around trans people, in which trans people say, Let us exist without being harassed or persecuted, and everyone else says, OK. Anything else is just allowing bigots a platform.

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          I wish the world worked that way, but in practice there are just too many ignorant people out there. They can walk out their front door and talk to their neighbors who are more than willing to pass on the latest slander about trans people. Our sub’s mission is to provide a space where they can try to pass on something resembling the latest slander and get push back. As-is, too much of the US is so segregated by ideology that people may not ever meet an out trans person. We want to foster those human-to-human connections instead of letting them rely on Tucker Carlson’s latest Very Concerned mouth diarrhea.

          Edit: I value safe spaces for their function as a reprieve for trans people, and I don’t think every platform should provide a space for unrestricted speech. But at the same time, I think it’s beneficial to have some spaces that require a bare minimum of good behavior so that society can talk about these topics and move forward into a better future. There’s too much ignorance of trans people as-is.

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            a bare minimum of good behavior

            See, the correct definition for this here is “no transphobia”

            It’s cute that you think you can fight back against reactionary BS by arguing with it, but history does not bear this out. What you end up doing is creating another space where people can post Tucker Carlson’s latest Very Concerned mouth diarrhea, only distilled into a more toxic form that even Tucker couldn’t get away with, as long as they say it politely. Your way has led us here, to a political situation where people are actively trying to eradicate trans people in law.

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              Your way has led us here, to a political situation where people are actively trying to eradicate trans people in law.

              Our sub’s way has largely not been followed in the US. Everyone’s retreated into their corner. Trans people have tried to keep safe, both physically and emotionally. Those hostile to them have cloaked their fear and hatred in the usual: family values and “think of the children”. The country is rife with tribalism. Different parts of the country have vastly different ways of thinking. There are fewer and fewer spaces dedicated to talking across ideologies, even closely related ones. We frequently hear that ours is one of the few spaces where people can talk over difficult issues without being shouted down.

              I’m under no illusions that reactionaries just need to hear the right words and they’ll be enthusiastic supporters. But I have found that when forced out of their zone of comfort, their minds change inch by inch. Even just starting by not allowing the worst slander helps jolt them out of that mindset and filter out people who will never be interested in discussion. Civil rights are gained by winning hearts and minds of our fellow citizens. The LGBTQ rights movement has moved amazingly fast, with under 55 years having passed since the Stonewall Riots. We have moved this fast partially because LGBTQ people are harder to “other” because any family member or friend can turn out to be LGBTQ.

              • @GarbageShootAlt2@lemmy.ml
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                The thing that irritates me about this comment and the ideology your subreddit represents (well, the pertinent thing) is that the popular world “polarization” obfuscates the massive difference there is between radicalism and dogmatism. That is to say, when two people disagree politically, some people like to imagine for various reasons that their level of animosity is a function of how different their political views are plus some ability to compartmentalize. These things are factors, but ones that lead to political illiteracy on their own.

                Dogmatism is the common word for having a circumscribed set of “correct beliefs” and being hostile to any deviation from that set. Radicalism is the sheer extremity of one’s views. It’s entirely possible to be a radical and to be accepting of people, and it’s quite easy to be both a centrist and a dogmatist. We know that second one because that describes a huge portion of the Democratic base! They are people with very little commitment to progressivism who nonetheless are deeply hostile to people on both their left as well as their right.

                Of course, sometimes the two traits coincide, like in the Republicans, which have a massive portion of their base that is both pretty radical and pretty dogmatic – though ironically they could be said to be accepting in an extraordinarily cynical way, what with how Evangelicals supported Trump, who is literally the fakest Christian to ever be President (“Two Corinthians”).

                Anyway, my point for saying this is that hucksters, useful idiots, and some who I’m sure are good people like to characterize American politics as a situation where there has been a sizable shift towards radicalism. There are new radical (QAnon) and “radical” (Bernie socdem) movements today as there are in any age, but overwhelmingly the Democrats have been getting more conservative if you look past their lip-service, while the Republicans have mostly also become more conservative. The world doesn’t need more centrists, the Democratic Party has plenty! When Obama said he’s “less liberal in a lot of ways” than Richard Nixon, that wasn’t his attempt at absurdist humor!

                What would actually be useful is functional empathy and – god forbid – a political ideology that has some ability to explain why people have political differences beyond some puritanical insinuation about moral failings. That does not mean we need to be nihilistic or appeasing with our actual political ideology as though nothing is true or else the truth is the median of whatever everyone happens to believe right now.

                Paraphrasing Lafayette, “If the world is divided between people who say 2 + 2 is 6 and those who say 2 + 2 is 4, that does not make it the most reasonable position that 2 + 2 is 5.”

                If I was writing it, I’d probably say that the camps in America are “4+4 is 44” and “4+4 is 64”, with “4+4 is 54” being the Enlightened Centrist answer (and ironically perhaps the most deeply irrational).

                • @pingveno@lemmy.ml
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                  The subreddit was somewhat poorly named. It’s not about “enlightened centrism,” as the insult from the left goes. The idea is to build a space where people with a fairly wide range of views can discuss those views without personal attacks. There are of course areas where different people will have different definitions of personal attacks, but for the most part we manage to keep a baseline of respect. What we’re not doing as moderators is deciding if 4+4 is 44, 64, 8, or a potato. Commenters talk that out and we keep them polite.

                  When Obama said he’s “less liberal in a lot of ways” than Richard Nixon, that wasn’t his attempt at absurdist humor!

                  Just for a little bit of context, Obama was griping that Fox and other right wing media was doing their usual “X Democrat is basically the avatar of Marxism” shtick. But the comparison with Nixon was not a good one. Nixon was constrained by a heavily Democratic Congress, while Obama was constrained by a lesser Republican House. Since Obama was comparing the outcomes of both administrations, his comparison looked at a Republican administration pushed hard to the left domestically with a Democratic administration push mildly to the right domestically.

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        Turns out when people complain about being censored and “free speech” it’s because they got in trouble for not being able to call people the N word or becasue they want to “politely discuss” why certain people shouldn’t be allowed to exist.

        We should never tolerate the intolerant.

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    Mods locking threads because “y’all can’t behave” jfc just ban accounts breaking the rules and let the rest discuss