• girltwink@lemmy.world
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    I have a schedule that has events going out until 6+ months from now. How do you survive with adult responsibilities without doing that?

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      By not having so many events I need to schedule them 6 months out. You should give it a try, works wonders.

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        So you don’t schedule any doctor appointments and never buy tickets to concerts or other events in the future? Huh…

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          Not 6+ months out why tf would I have to wait 6 months for a Dr’s appointment?? The only thing I schedule that far in advance is a holiday at a destination that takes longer than 5 hours to drive to.

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              Really? I started seeing one within a week but I live in a rural mountain town.

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              The trick is to find one that isn’t just filling their schedules with plastic surgeries.

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            I think this is the difference between people living in super populated areas, and more rural ones. I have no issue getting a close appointment in Ohio, but it’s much more difficult in Los Angeles (w/o going to the ER).

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              For immediate concerns that you don’t schedule if your primary care is busy you go to walk in clinics.

              There’s options in those areas since they understand the need for them.

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                Yeah that’s the way to go. Not sure I knew that was an option at the time

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                  It’s weird, here there’s walk ins that also double as primary care, there’s walkins that just do that, and there’s primary care that just do that.

                  So I always knew about walkins as my doctor did both. If he was booked I could go as a walk-in and maybe see them, or it would be another doctor.

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            In Germany for specialists it’s quite normal.

            My dermatologist only makes appointments 3 to 6 months in advance. Same with my pulmonologist. I heard psychologist appointments are often enough between one and two years in advance (if you want to start a new therapy).

            Vacation is another such thing. Some employers require you to plan your vacation time at the beginning of the year so they don’t end up with a whole department being gone at the same time. Of course I need to factor that into my calender then so I don’t put other appointments/promises in there.

            Weddings and large birthday parties are also often announced and planned far ahead. I need to block that in my calender as well.

            And so on.

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            Usually you schedule your next appointment when you’re finishing the first one so you don’t forget. Then they’ll send you a bunch of reminder texts leading up to it lol

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            It might be for a specialist or something. My primary care was booking physicals about a year out, but getting regular appointments are no issue.

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            I used to live like that, then I moved to a big city. Literally any event you want to go to is sold out six months to a year in advance. You have to make plans or you’ll never be able to attend anything. Even good restaurants are booked solid for 3 weeks. You either make reservations for next month, or you slip them $50 at the hostess station for a chance to eat, which is wasteful and douchey.

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          Or vacations? Or family events? Or camping trips with friends? Music festivals? Conferences? Presentations, working group meetings, etc. for work?

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          I’ve never had an issue of getting a doctor appointment within a couple of weeks. Dentists are the only one that keeps the very regular rhythm, and a have multiple reminders within the three weeks before so I can get time off.

          As I go to a lot of hard rock/metal shows every year, I’ve grown to dislike the idea of assigned seating and prefer to stand. Most are also lesser known, so I tend to be able to get my tickets the week of, if not the day before.

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      No kidding. At least with writing in my dentist appointment that far out, I can plan around it, or reschedule if it conflicts. I know plenty of people though that just keep everything in a mental schedule, and they are constantly scrambling.

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        That just sounds like someone trying to do far more than they are capable of. Real schedule or mental it would all still need to be reconfigured when something comes up, which it always does unless you just ignore everything else that’s not on your list……

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      By flying by the seat of your pants. A plan is just a list of stuff to go wrong. Sick kid and now you’re with them at home trying to figure out which appointments to move instead of just dealing with each week as it comes.

      How often does everything work out in your schedule for a day? Week? Month? Because if you say more than once you’ve got a seriously wayyyy to easy going life apparently.

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        I do this all the time + my director level duties at work + raising a 3.5 year old.

        It’s quite easy to deal with and you just need to shift a few days if something comes up.

        It’s not like you are planning a full day a year out. It’s typically vacation or doctors appointment or birthday type event.

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          Of course moving the stuff around is easy. What’s even easier it not needing to do it since not everything is planned.

          The whole point is it requires time to move stuff, time a lot of people just don’t have it. It sounds like with your job you’re able to do planning while working. Most people need to do it in their extremely limited free time.

          Of course everyone schedules that stuff out ahead of time, but not 6 months out and every day planned out like the original comment said.

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            Nah, I definitely believe you are definitely the edge case here. I have literally never met a person with the hectic life you describe. Planning it out makes it easier to manage anyway 🤷‍♂️.

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              I don’t have a hectic life? I’m saying is people would rather use that time “wasted “ dealing with fixing schedules and dealing with calls to move appointments doing other productive stuff.

              What it productive is up to each individual person.

              Play a video game or drink with friends or stress about a schedule that will absolutely change? That’s a no brainer, enjoy scheduling the impossible while I have fun gaming and dealing with the ship that comes on its own regardless of my planning.

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      I have adhd so unfortunately my ability to manage time is literally handicapped. The further ahead something is scheduled, the more difficult it is for me to keep track of and remember.

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      I’m with you on this. Routine visits are always booked 6+ months in advance and I’d totally lose track if I didn’t keep a calendar for my life lol

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        You really should go every 4 months though. 6 is just what insurance is willing to cover.

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          No? Get the sonic toothbrush and actually floss. Beyond that, just get some dental picks on Amazon for like $15. The checkup is just extra.

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            I do and I do. I’d rather have a professional clean my teeth with picks. And it only cost like $25 and takes 30 min. And it’s not covered since it’s a 3rd cleaning.

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            I can honestly say that I’ve never known a dentist nor hygienist to work more than 4 days per week. Therefore, I assume you’re pulling my leg! /s (I really have never known a dental pro that works more than 4 days per week though.)

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              The smart ones work 4 days a week! I work as an assistant in a larger practice with a few docs, so there’s always a doc in the house ;-)