• Buck Fucket@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    My Wife’s Father. I don’t care for him even if he has changed following a letter she wrote to him saying she’d be out of his life if he didn’t. In the past he beat her Mom and put my Wife through constant guilt trips. He honestly has changed a lot since the letter and he does very well with his grand daughter, but I just wanted to be home with my wife and daughter after working 70 hours out of state on a retrofit job. My Wife’s mother and step father will be visiting new years weekend. I just want it to be my family, but my Wife needs the help watching our daughter while I’m gone for work, so I just put up with it like any decent human would.

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      11 months ago

      It’s like a trope. Old men who used to be really shitty fathers and now desperately try to cling on to the image of themselves as the heads of the family even though they will never truly be forgiven for who they used to be, and everyone are kind of afraid that they still are.

      It’s sad, it’s painful, and it’s fucking impossible to deal with in a good way.

    • Tyfud
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      11 months ago

      The frustrating part is that he probably thinks he’s the victim here and he’s the one having to go through a lot and tolerate a lot just to spend time with his grandkids.

      I’ve got someone in my like like that and it’s exhausting.