• @Sharkwellington
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    5 months ago

    Can we please move past this puritanical fear of the existence of sexual acts between consenting adults?

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    Stewart added, “I personally don’t feel comfortable with the plus category only because I don’t understand it and I have never gotten a clear answer.”

    I doubt this person has ever had an honest conversation on the subject. Aside from that, “I don’t understand this” is not an excuse to vote against something, either bring in someone to explain it to you or abstain from voting because you aren’t qualified.

      • @Sharkwellington
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        215 months ago

        Yep, in my experience “I don’t understand this” means “I don’t want to understand this.”

        • WalrusDragonOnABike
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          75 months ago

          At least when “I don’t understand this” is used as an excuse to for things like this.

          There are times where I feel like I don’t understand things, maybe partly because I’m probably autistic and probably deal with dpdr. I’m still not confident in my understanding of sexual attraction. Gender is still a mystery to me and I consider myself under the trans umbrella and spend a lot of time in trans communities, so it’s not from a lack of trying. Emotions(?) like pain and hunger also confuse me (at least one person has told me they’re not emotions, but for me there seems to often be a disconnect between the stimuli and my brain’s reaction to them so I’m often not sure how to answer when someone asks if im hungry or if something hurts because im not sure how my experience map to their words). But I don’t use my lack of understanding to tell others they should not take pain pills, for example.