I am currently going through a lot of gender questioning, and I want to know how you all discovered your gender identities, or if you are still questioning yourself. I think that I am probably not cis, but as we all know, gender isn’t black and white. I’m identifying as non-binary right now, but I have had a lot of times throughout my life, including now, where I may have wanted to be more feminine, or even a woman. Especially after lurking on this site and looking at the trans megathreads, I find myself relating to a lot of what is being said. Overall, I recently feel like I have either hit a wall or just opened up a part of myself that I thought I had already solved, so I think that the experiences of others might help me figure myself out.
P.S. I don’t know if this is the appropriate comm, it made a little more sense than the trans comm, since it said it was more of a meme comm, and this is not a meme. Mods, please take it down if it’s the wrong comm; I’ll repost if I need to.
I didn’t know what trans was when I was 4 or 5, but I heard about reincarnation, and I thought “that explains it! I must have been a woman in a past life!” I couldn’t specifically say what it was, but I just never felt like a typical man, and fantasised about being a woman as early as I could remember. I later learned I could be a feminine man, I consider myself non-binary and present mostly male, I’m not big on labels.
I feel mostly very very similar. I also remember thinking as a I kid that I was a woman in my past life. And that everyone had a mix of “masculine” and “feminine” energy, but I was much more “feminine” energy (I was a kid so this was not influenced by new wave “female goddess energy” TikTok stuff at all, I even hard disagree with most of these types about what feminine and masculine energies even are). But I never fantasied or wished I was a woman. And I know this will sound ridiculous, but I think it’s basically because of Lord of The Rings. I loved Aragorn, Legolas and Sam so so much. To me they represented what was best in men, and I really was inspired by them. Aragorn made me want to forever have shoulder length hair and a beard.
Same for me with LOTR really haha, Legolas specifically inspired me, he was a fierce warrior but wasn’t the typical manly strongman, and had great hair too hah