Trans men are men.

  • Mango@lemmy.world
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    Trans men are men.

    So why even use the word ‘trans’? Surely it’s meaningless. No conceivable difference, right?

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      So why even use the word ‘trans’?

      Why use words at all? Just make grunting noises and hope other people get the gist.

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      Black men are men too. It’s an identifier for a member of a marginalized community. Feigning ignorance like this isn’t funny or entertaining.

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        I’m not feigning ignorance. I’m trying to make the point that if it’s true it doesn’t need said with any kind of modifier. The distinction itself is the difference, and the people who are bothered about it aren’t any more crazy than I am with the phobias I have.

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          It needs to be said as long as people don’t understand it. Plus, it can be a useful descriptor to refer to someone’s history as FTM-transitioned, and the experiences that come with that.

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        It is a useful identifier only in the context of how black men a different (from “normal men”?). Most of the time black men are just men, but there are a few ways they are different. If you are not specificity trying to bring out one of that cases where black men a different you are continuing the idea that black men are different which doesn’t help most of the cases where they are different. There are a couple medical instances where black men are different that should remain, but for the most part differences between black men and [normal?] men are just about discrimination and so if that doesn’t apply to what you are talking about then black men is a harmful lable.

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          But Black men are still men. They are discriminated against for being Black (or “black men”), but the root does not stem from them being men, as in they are not targeted for just being men but “black men” as a class. The lines are blurred when people treat trans men (or black men) as a different category of men, but such bigoted rhetoric doesnt first stem from them being men but “other men”, excluded from masculinity by patriarchy and bigotry.

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          They are different in how they are treated and their life outcomes due to their treatment. The same can be made about why leftists talk about trans men. We don’t care about the trans part, we care about the treatment they are put through by society.

          Contrasting that with how racists talk about black men because they view that there are irrevocable differences between black men and white men, or how transphobes say trans men because they view them as women ‘faking’ manhood, and you can see how the same language changes meaning in differing contexts.

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      The big group men include both cis men and trans men. Both are men.

      It’s pretty simple if you’re not a asshole about it.

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        What makes us men any more than being beings with arbitrary shapes? I’m using arbitrary in the literal sense of “decided by individuals without regards to external factors”.

        I’m not a man. I’m me, and I happen to be in this body. All these words are just ways other people are labeling me so they can decide how I’m to be treated. Putting a label on a person is no different than putting a handle on your coffee pot.

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          In the way “man” is being used here, it’s not your body that would make you a man, but your gender identity. For most people, those are intuitively the same thing, but that only makes it more important to be clear about the terms being used here.

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              Listen, if you want to question the terms or concepts being used here then go for it, but please don’t barrel into the discussion and obstinately refuse to use the same definitions as everyone else while intentionally not making that clear just so that you can try to own people. We all see through it and it’s obnoxious and only serves to erode the quality of discussion.

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                don’t barrel into the discussion and obstinately refuse to use the same definitions as everyone else while intentionally not making that clear just so that you can try to own people.

                Well if that’s the proper way to do things, I’m gonna need you all to stop obstinately refusing to use the words “man” and “woman” the same way as everyone else while intentionally not making that clear for whatever reason you have. It really IS rude to hijack already existing language to change the conventions everyone else is already using. I would also like people to stop acting like feminism is egalitarianism when the label is clearly gendered.

                If you wanna question what it is to be a man or a woman, then go for it, but have some definition ready before asserting what’s what in the face of thousands of years of precedent.

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          What makes us men any more than being beings with arbitrary shapes?

          Mango, why do you always have to be the one saying absolutely ridiculous shit?

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                  Dude what are you talking about? I can spend a lot of time describing what I do for work, or I can use a label that describes my occupation. It won’t 100% do the job, but will be sufficient most of the time, and if not I can elaborate. How do you even talk to people without using labels, are you happen to be Treebeard or something?

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      Can’t tell if you are trying to be forcefully post-gender or trans-exclusionary.

      Gender is arbitrary, being conceived in passing by ancient society noticing the difference in hardware without nuance, which was later used as a rhetorical tool for subjugating women and ‘deviants’ (those who didn’t fit neatly within the binary). Because of this subjugative function, it began being strictly enforced, and we still see that strictness in society today.

      Modern attempts at sorting gender have been a failure, consistently failing to actually cleanly sort men from women in a clean binary.

      Eventually there will come a time where trans can be omitted from conversation, but that is not now, due to the danger omitting it poses for trans individuals from unadjusted individuals. The strict gender binary must be dismantled first.