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    Part of why I moved to the city was wanting to escape the car based nightmare of the suburbs. Couldn’t do much of anything without a car or an extremely risky walk.

    I could have walked a mile to the train station with no sidewalks , and then paid $20 for a ticket into the city on a train that stops at like 10pm, but all of that sucks. I stayed inside and played a lot of video games.

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        I looked it up, it’s $15 currently. Suburban NJ to Manhattan.

        $15 is still kind of a lot when you’re a kid

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          Damn, I feel blessed then. Australia’s a pretty high cost of living, but our trains (+ the other modes of public transport) are like half that price in Melbourne Australia, and you can travel as much as you like. All day. Almost anywhere in the state where trains, busses and trams go.

          (Or at leat most routes)

          We are still very car centric though, by international standards.

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    I hate when nature is absent. It’s not just urban centers. Large suburban parking lots with no trees are a kind of hell for me.

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      In the US, compare a city like Houston, TX to a city like Portland, OR. Seems like two different planets.

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        You don’t need to even travel. Compare downtown to Katy. Houston has plenty of nice parts with tons of nature, they just also have 50 square mile cookie cutter ranch house subdivisions.

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      bruh same. everytime i have to ride through suburbs im just like damn this is so depressing and ugly

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      I like urban centers even when they’re relatively devoid of nature. What I don’t like is when nature is pointlessly absent. A bunch of tall buildings providing living, working and recreational space efficiently to lots of people? Excellent. Asphalt to the horizon so that people can drive to Walmart and then drive to Applebee’s? Soul-crushing.

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      I know it’s not quite nature, but in my neighborhood in SF there’s trees on every sidewalk and multiple parks within a 5 minute walk

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      Awww that’s so sad. Having to be in a parking lot without trees sounds like the worst hell on earth there possibly could ever be 😭

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        After going to Japan and seeing what is possible with proper city planning… Yes, the American parking lots really are one of the worst offenders when it comes to our infrastructure. They’re an incredible waste of space.

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    This is why I want to move to the netherlands. Beautiful countryside, walkable cities. Shit, I could bike to nearby cities there if I wanted to.

    I’ll never be able to afford to leave the hellhole known as the usa, but damnit I’ll dream.

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      I live in Norway. Growing up, some days in school were reserved for diverse activities. Some of my friends and I decided to bike to the swimming park in the city ~20 miles away. We didn’t have to bike on car roads at all to get there, as bike lanes and good side paths lead us the whole way. Being able to get anywhere with a bike at the age of 14 is an amazing level of freedom.

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        Growing up in the 90s in the usa, movies and tv always showed kids riding around on their bikes and not coming home until dark. Where the hell did they go? To get from the suburbs into town would be 10-20 miles riding on the edge of the highway almost wherever you live. No shoulder, no bike lane, no nothing (I did this to get to work for about a year. it sucked, got hit by a truck twice in that time.)

        Norway sounds great.

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            Riding around in the suburbs get old fast if you can’t occasionally go more into the city or out into the countryside or to some other interesting place.

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              I didn’t feel like it ever got old, as a kid. I used to love riding down hills with my friends, with our feet off the pedals to see how fast we could go. Or we’d just ride aimlessly until we’d see some old building to explore, or an animal to try to catch, or a tree to climb, or an interesting person to talk to. I don’t think I started feeling like we needed to be going “somewhere” until I was a teen. People aren’t as nice about groups of teens riding around randomly.

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                As a kid I was quite content doing laps around my neighborhood. When I got together with other kids we’d wander further, and since it was a small town, adults would keep an eye on us.

                Nowadays if you let kids wander around like that you get cited for abandonment.

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                  I think it must vary a lot from place to place. I lived in Southern Louisiana until recently, and it’s still common there to see kids out by themselves, walking from place to place, playing in the street, or riding bikes around the neighborhood with friends. No one seems to have a problem with it.

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        UK here, not perfect but we did have quite a few paths that either don’t allow cars or don’t have many so cycling around was pretty easy. Cars make people lazy. Many people I know will drive to avoid an 800m walk.

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        I could stare at the streets and walkways in a typical netherlands city for hours. I love good brickwork. Sometimes I get on google maps and just digitally walk though places. I don’t want to point at amsterdam, because everyone knows amsterdam. Try lelystad, built on land that was underwater not that long ago but reclaimed by modern dutch engineering.

        I’d gush about how beautiful their streets are, or I could link a video that does a much better job than I ever could.

        https://youtu.be/Cq1kV6V_jvI

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        Summary:

        Street = Has businesses, houses, shops and sidewalks. Designed for humans.

        Road = Higher speed limit than streets, generally no businesses or sidewalks, as it’s just there to connect areas. Designed for cars.

        Stroad = A connection between areas that also has businesses. You have higher speed limits, minimal sidewalks and it’s dangerous/impossible to cross on foot. The only way to get around to different businesses along a stroad is by car.

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          Seems like people decided to back out a new definition, I don’t think those words mean those things, but whatever.

          What comes to mind from the picture is US-1 or 441, both of which were built as highways prior to highways existing and were major east coast routes up and down the coast. They do indeed suck, but it’s mostly due to their historical use as The major highway for the area. The same is true of El Camino real over in San Francisco, real shitty.

          That having been said, at least with the first two examples the majority of businesses are indeed car focused. Things like auto dealers, mechanics, Costco, furniture, and other shops you would never go without a vehicle. It seems weird to complain that this type of street exists when it clearly serves a purpose (first as a pre-eisenhower highway, then as a shopping mall for vehicle-oriented purposes). Isn’t it better to keep cars in their own area?

          What seems more likely is that the guy in the pic dropped off his car for an oil change and was wandering around waiting (I’ve done this) or that there’s a major gap in public transit (very likely).

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        If you go to any old town in Europe there are a lot of roads with practically no cars. You can just walk along this wide road through the town fit for dozens of people. The problem is not that there aren’t enough pedestrian sidewalks, the problem is everything in modern infrastructure is being made for cars, and roads are seen as both meant for pedestrians AND cars.

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    It’s depressing seeing this in my city. Full groves of trees and fields ripped up and destroyed for another McDonald’s and more and more apartments. It never ends does it ?

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    Here in the Europes, I find curbside parking similarly depressing. Like, man, it should be a human right for kids to be able to go outside for playing ball. But you can’t do that anywhere around here, because wherever there’s kids, you can be sure that someone’s parking their precious car nearby.

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    Only sort of related but The Florida Project is a great film that shows children playing in the dismal misery of Florida, much like in this photo.

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    That’s the same outside that was there in the 80’s. Kids just do other things that aren’t outside to be social, now. When I was a kid, if you wanted to play with other kids, you pretty much had to go be outside.

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      My cousin went for a walk in their aunt’s residential neighborhood, and someone called the cops on them.

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        I remember visiting family in Michigan a few years back (well, right before COVID), and someone called the cops on my cousin and I sitting on the driveway shooting the shit at 9pm in the summer, like, wtf?

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        A college friend of my sister and friend were walking on the sidewalk on a road like this in Buffalo NY and a cop car rammed into them paralyzing one of them from the neck down.

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          Jesus Christ, that’s awful. I wish that your friend will recover, though I know all too well how slim those prospects are. How many days of paid vacation did the cop get / which department did they move to?

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        Small tangent, but dude, NextDoor is a hell app. I used it for less than one day before I deleted it for being a festering cesspool of breathless Nancy Grace energy. “YOU GUYS MY RING CAMERA CAUGHT SOME TEENAGERS WALKING DOWN THE STREET AND THEY WERE LAUGHING?! WHAT WERE THEY LAUGHING ABOUT?!” Straight up, besides the caps, not exaggerating.

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        I was walking on my street until some lady going 80mph almost hit me. My road elevation changes enough that at that speed you don’t see someone until its too late at that speed.

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        I was watching 1923 recently and there was a scene where one of the main characters was walking along the road and got stopped by a policeman in a car saying that vagrancy is a crime. WTF? I get it, it’s about a bygone era, but really? You couldn’t just fucking walk in the US?

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        I visited Taipei and I was surprised to see no free-standing single-story homes even relatively far from the city center. People lived in row-houses four or five stories tall, and the first floor of pretty much every single one of these houses was occupied by a small store or restaurant. Many streets were very narrow and mopeds were common but cars less so. It was much livelier there than in a US suburb (or even many US city centers) and I enjoyed my tourist experience. Still, I would prefer to live in a quieter, less dense American-style suburb and drive if I needed to do anything except enjoy my property, but I can see why many people would prefer the opposite. I think it might be like being an introvert or extrovert.

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          Yeah, i have to live out of town and have my own space since I’m into loud out door activities and drumming… I can’t live near other people haha

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        It is. I’m currently fighting my city about it, because our zoning is actively bankrupting the city and making it a worse place to live. It’s crazy, it feels like trying to persuade someone not to shoot themselves in the head because they think it’s just what you’re supposed to do.

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      American style subdivisions are the absolute worst for kids, nothing to do at all.

      Walk around the same 5 streets with 150 houses around, get kicked out of all of the common areas by Karens and HOAs.

      Kids don’t go outside there either because there is not much of a point, if you’re lucky there may be a tennis court that you can hang out at.

      Good luck going to see your friends from school though, even though they live in the neighborhood across the street, the street in question is a 5 lane highway with no pedestrian bridge or tunnels.

      Wanna go somewhere with other kids your age, better hope you can have someone drive you.

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      It’s not just the kids’ cell phones. It’s the 24 hour outrage and fear driven by the news and/or social media. So their parents won’t encourage them to wander off, and as others have mentioned the neighbors will call the cops on them if they do wander.

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      I live in a residential neighborhood. The main demographic that can afford to move in to the suburb is people already nearing retirement with grown up kids. My kids are constantly bored out of their heads outside because there’s nothing to do, nowhere to go, and nobody to play with. We’ve hosted seven exchange students and the number one culture shock is the loss of independence that goes with moving into a car dependent suburb. Our city design, pretty much everywhere in the US, blows ass. We could be doing so many things so much better, and it would actually cost everyone, taxpayers included, less money. We are all literally paying orders of magnitude more to do the stupid shitty thing and pretending that it’s great.

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      …so that he’ll need to be driven by you to be able to hang out with any of his friends? Sorry, I don’t really understand.

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        I’m only 3 miles out of town. My boy is 3, the kid across the road is 5. They’re already living their best childhoods like Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn. They know how to identify and harvest edible mushrooms. They pick blackberries and huckleberries by the bucketfuls in the summer.

        My property is a few acres, has a pond with fish. It backs up to a state forest. All redwoods. A healthy salmon creek runs right by the property. There are fire roads and logging roads webbed all through the forest, so we can hike and mountain bike to our hearts content all from our front door, no driving.

        I’m building zip lines and tree weaves for the kids, I’m turning the off-house 3 car garage into a pub with a bar, taps and pool table. So long story short, all his classmates and their parents drive out here to play, not the other way around. This is the place to be.

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    And this could be anywhere in the USA, this could be California, Texas, Fucking Virginia or even Puerto Rico.