• Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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    There’s a guy on our dog walking route that put up several Trump flags last year. My wife and I actually wound up having an interaction with him because he was spying on us through his cameras and got mad that we referred to the flags as embarrassing and said that Trumpism was a cult.

    By mid-April, he’d pulled down all the flagpoles and didn’t even take the flags off them, just laid the poles with flags wrapped around them in the dirt by his driveway.

    In May I actually talked with him. Initially I had no intention of trying to be nice to him - he just had done something sort of shitty a few days before (encouraging his dog to bark at our dogs). I was going to be like “Look, if you wanna call me gay slurs over your ring camera, that’s fine, but don’t encourage your dog to be hostile to mine.”
    But somehow he tied his dog to military service, and while I was fully prepared to connect the lack of a veteran license plate to his statement to call him a liar and a Reddit ninja, he fielded the license plate question and said that he’d suffered a TBI that resulted in an appreciable percentage of brain dying, and that made him unable to be rational when he felt any sort of threat or insult. So he didn’t use the military plates, because he’d had negative experiences with motorists while using them.
    I don’t know if I believe that - it seems dumb on the part of the other motorists. But I’m not willing to keep pressing for the sake of picking a fight. I’ll throw a barb, but not over-extend myself. It’s just not worth it.
    So I listened, and we chatted - for like an hour and a half. My wife left after a few minutes with the dogs. We talked about politics, the world, our community, and how fucked everything is. He supported Trump because of the 2016 (Obama) economy. He believes in women’s rights. He is conservative, anti-immigrant, and believes in stronger policing. I told him I believe in increased social support, so folks like him can get out of the VA benefits trap. I told him I think the way to stronger communities is through stronger schools and increased civic engagement - more pride, less punishment. He even asked if we’d be willing to help train his dog better, because he notices that ours don’t bark at other dogs, and don’t pull on their leads. I told him I’d have to think about it, and ask my wife, since she’s the one who really had the patience to get our dogs where they are.

    We parted - not as friends - but certainly not as enemies. Just - neighbors with a better understanding of each other.

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      My boyfriend keeps saying that America needs a strong leader who can unite the people across the political divide like Lincoln did. That Trump was a divider for all people and he spreads divisiveness and hate whereever he goes and that most of the divisiveness we have today is because of Trump. He took smaller issues and poured gasoline on them and now we are here.

      He says the way out of this nightmare is not a violent revolution, but a leader who can unite the people and bring focus back to building a society that is better for all.

      He doesn’t want Americans to lose their humanity because of one insane asshole. I am sometimes in awe of his cold head and warm heart. I try to remind myself of his words whenever I hear the next new retarded thing Trump has done overseas and how it’s gonna affect not just America but the rest of us too. I go a bit feral sometimes, ngl.

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      My amygdala hates that that seems the most effective way out of all this. A lot of people are lost and angry and get mad when they feel threatened. Some, sure, are evil as evil can be for the sheer joy of cruelty. But plenty are small and angry and dont think anything can be better so they lash out and follow the strongmen.

      The dead won’t care why they did it or that they change. But those who live because they change might just care that they do.

      All I know is fuck I got tired being the only [slur] a bunch of rural republicans ever met, and I’m fucking pissed I had to leave for the reason I did.

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        The really funny thing is that I’m in a heterosexual couple. My wife is bi, but the closest I tread to the rainbow is polyamory.

        It’s not even a good insult!
        Oooh. I’m going to associate you with a group that has shown incredible resilience and generally embodies such dastardly values as embracing their true selves, seeking or building community, respecting each other, valuing mental health and self care, and living in defiance of what is expected of them.
        I’ve been given more insulting compliments.

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      Boss, as a vet, I also don’t have vet plates. In my case, It continues to feel like pulling military benefits when I did the bare minimum as a job when the market was shit. I don’t like pulling veteran’s discounts at restaurants/stores/etc. either.

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        That’s fair. To be honest, the thing that sort of put me back on my heels about him was learning about the TBI - that explained his pattern of behavior. However, I can definitely see the point about not wanting the recognition via the license plate, or the reminders of harder times.

        After months of a mostly one-way back and forth, I really just was looking to poke back at him and was grasping at low-hanging fruit in the moment. Kinda glad I saw an alternative option once it opened up.

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        Possibly even “Best of Lemmy” material. This story took me for an emotional ride, and the ending provided water to the wilting sprig that’s left of my hope.

        ETA I just decided to go for it. Let’s see what Lemmy decides.

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    A friend of mine…didn’t vote. But she’s disproportionately impacted by these policies. Whenever she brings it up now I find I can’t respond. I don’t want to lose my friend, it’s important to me that we work through this and make better choices later. But it is so hard.

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      People won’t do the absolute bare minimum to inform themselves, it’s so aggravating. I see this in everything, not just politics. Please tell me there are more people slowly losing their mind and going mad over this.

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        Apparently there are plenty of people who do not exist in a permanent state of wonder about the world around them. For me, that was harder to accept than it ought to be…ongoing battle as you can see with my friend here. But yeah, most people have a baseline that doesn’t include the need to be fully informed, I reckon. At least in my experience. Aggravating at times, disappointing, confusing…then again not having to experience those must be blissful.

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        Yep, and precede it with something like “I enjoy our friendship but I have to ask…”
        Put the emphasis on the friendship and how both can learn from it.

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      Talk about the next vote and the protests in between. Going over mistakes might be satisfying in the moment but it’s not productive.

      That said, I wouldn’t hold myself back 🤷‍♂️

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        Ive explained to her why she is about to lose her health insurance potentially. She’s low info, it’s crazy how apathetic many people are. But also…a shithole red state is all she has ever known. So it’s almost like she doesn’t believe things can be better even one state over.

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          a shithole red state is all she has ever known

          How close was the vote in the state that her vote might’ve swung the electoral college?

          That’s the sort of thing that depresses the electorate: feeling like their vote doean’t matter or gets tossed outright. Makes people feel powerless in choosing the occupant of the White House.

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            Over 1/3 of our voting population sits out every election (probably double that in non-presidential years). If even half of them showed up to vote, they’d see how much their vote matters, and why republicans go out of their way to suppress voter turnout.

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              If even half of them showed up for the dems, and the dems had +10 in the senate, they’d do nothing to help the people who elected them, give the Republicans half the discretionary budget in the name of bipartisanship, give the banks billions of dollars, and bomb a dozen middle eastern countries to prove they’re just as strong on foreign policy as Republicans. We know this because that is what happened. We need to focus on purging the party if we want our votes to matter in the general.

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      If the topic comes up again, ask her, “if you were really stupid, would you want somebody to tell you?” And no matter what she says, pokerface and change the subject or leave.

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      God, that was a shitty night. The day after election day 2016 was horrible and I felt sick all day, but in 2024 it was a kind of grim numbness. I knew that what’s happening now was coming and I felt so fucking powerless to stop it and hated my fellow Americans who voted for it (or didn’t bother voting in states where it mattered) so much. Those last two things haven’t changed.

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        You might feel better that they definitely legally cheated with gerrymandering and voter restrictions, but they probably illegally cheated too. Both Trump and Musk implied that, I believe them.

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          I don’t know about you, but this makes it worse, cause they are getting away with it so easily. They will cheat twice as hard for the next election.

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          It’s quite possible they fudged the numbers enough to get a win, but they definitely didn’t fake having 80 million-ish people supporting them. Even if Harris had barely squeaked out a win, this would just keep happening every election. The massive support shows me that fascism here was inevitable. Our fascist hellhole has to crash and burn for us to have any chance of becoming something better from the ashes.

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            I’m only chiming in because I suspect that crashing and burning won’t actually help much.

            It’s too easy for humans to disassociate ‘other people’, at which point, anything can happen.

            Sure, crashing and burning might lead to a better system to work with, but that basically happened to Germany a while back and they seem to be struggling with a fascist rise lately… Seems like constant vigilance might be needed given our insecurities that drive us

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            Oh for sure, but we know 46% of people who voted are insane, dumb and/or easily manipulated. It’s that “who voted” part that makes a difference. Fascism is never inevitable.

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              Democrats should’ve ran an actual leftist candidate.

              FPTP should also be abolished so you lot aren’t stuck with Dems vs Reps in the first place.

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              It was for us because of the capitalist dystopia our government chose to pursue. If Trump being elected the first time didn’t convince people it’s a bad idea, nothing would. They have to experience the horrors of it firsthand to hopefully get it through their thick skulls why it’s a bad thing and the very thing that this country was originally founded to avoid.

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                They have to experience the horrors of it firsthand to hopefully get it through their thick skulls why it’s a bad thing

                This is such a frustrating and consistent issue. Every time I hear a story about a conservative changing their opinion, it’s because the consequences of their actions affected them or someone related to them. They can’t simply imagine how the consequences will play out or be bothered to care when it hurts their neighbors.

                And even then, there’s like a 50/50 chance that they’ll just blame the Democrats for it and vow to keep voting for Republicans.

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    Sounds like a great opportunity for them to learn the lengths to which they’re exploited and manipulated daily. Hopefully they take it.

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    Meanwhile, I saw some asshole driving a cyberbrick yesterday. A lot of them are still proud of their identities as assholes.

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      A cyber truck parked in my area. Out steps a 50yo woman. I live near an organic spa treatment place.

      All I did was give her a wtf face when she exited. And she rushed back to her vehicle when I saw her again an hour later.

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      The neighbor who had a massive Trump sticker on his car no longer has that sticker.

      There was a RV camp on my way to work that has multiple Trump flags. It’s gone now.

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      They used to be a trump billboard and about 15 “fight” signs on my way to work. Now all there is just a store that just happens to also sell trump merch

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        A house on a corner that I need to pass on my commute had a massive Trump flag facing the intersection, back during the election.

        Not long after, the massive flag was taken down. A smaller flag was put near the house.

        Now there’s nothing.

        For a short time in-between, they did have signs up for local politicians. As someone who tries to actually research all the local candidates, it was convenient for me to know which candidates I didn’t have to bother with.