I’ll try and minimize personal info in this post so that it’s harder to dox me. I am a cishet white man without any romantic experience who is interested in trying online dating. I know that resources about doing this exist, but I don’t know how to find them without getting PUA or other harmful advice mixed in.

What do I need to know/do/have before I try this?

Which apps should I use?

Are there guides that give relatively simple information on how to avoid harmful situations with online and not online dating?

Thanks for the advice stalin-heart

  • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    22·
    2 months ago

    i met mine through a dating app a long time ago, get rekt nerds i got it before capitalism hypermonetized it pineapple-cool

    even then i got spammed with proto-incels. dating apps are filled with this baseline level of incel/evil dudes that will lead with sexually harassing, negging, and insulting you and wonder why they dont get dates, they’re permanent fixtures in the system. if you dont get any dates, don’t take it as some jab against you, its likely many women are being spammed by bots and incels and cant even see your message. i got around 1000 messages a month when i clearly stated i was a trans woman and a communist, i had to filter through them with a fine toothed comb to find my SO. glad as fuck i did though theyre hot and amazing

    • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      17·
      2 months ago

      it actually took me about 3 months to even respond to my SO’s message, my inbox was just being inundated. and out of all those messages, maybe 30 people were actually communists and interesting to me, i went on plenty of dates with these people before i was even cognizant of my SO. whats wild is my SO is very, very attractive and he said he only had 3-4 messages at the time, mostly from like… christian conservative farm girls, and was very ecstatic when i replied to him finally and was hyper afraid of fucking it up