One app, 60 men, 26 dates: my adventures in alt-right dating
www.cosmopolitan.com
There’s no question that we’re living — and looking for love — in contentious times, where extreme political ideologies have all but divided parts of the dating pool. Or have they?

Pretty bad article, but a couple interesting points that we all probably know already. Since it’s a liberal woman, it’s new to her I guess.

I told him that I was born in Russia and was a writer. He showed me a list he’d written of his favourite desserts in the city. It was a sober hobby he’d started during the pandemic, going to restaurants by himself, sampling sweets. He made a lot of lists, he said, most of them food-related. I asked what other kinds he made.

“Lists of lies liberal white women tell about Donald Trump,” he replied.

Suddenly, his leg was shaking. He grabbed the edges of the table and raised his voice: “White, liberal women are a plague on our society.”

He proceeded to drink 11 iced coffees.
. . .
“They say horrible things about me and make everyone hate me and think I’m a bad person,” he said. He was staring at a point in the distance, speaking like he was in some kind of trance.

“What did they say about you?” I asked.

He snapped out of it. “Oh, not me,” he answered. “I meant Donald Trump.”

Over the course of a few dates, he’d make this mistake often, where he’d talk about Trump in the first person. And I came to realise that while I was trying to separate Jared from who he voted for, he may have been personally struggling to do the exact same thing, just in a very different way. It became clear to me that he truly loved Trump not just because he identified with Trump the politician but because he identified with Trump the person being considered ‘bad’ by progressive standards.
. . .
On a different week, I met up with Jake*, 36. He was on his second mezcal negroni, and I was sipping a seltzer with lime, when I asked him why his last relationship ended. “My previous girlfriend killed our child,” he said. “Like, she’s in jail now for murder?” I asked. “No, but she should be,” he explained, shooting back his drink. “She got an abortion and killed our child without asking me.” I took a deep breath and tried to listen carefully.
. . . At a chic omakase place, Matthew*, 25, from New Jersey was going off about how “we should have never let a woman be head of the Secret Service”. With each course, I fired off questions about his upbringing. He mentioned online groups where there were “others like him”, the kind where people whose radical-to-me beliefs find validation — and even more than validation, identity itself. Matthew later revealed he has a swastika tattoo.
. . .
I didn’t feel that any of the men I dated were that interested in me as a person or where I came from either. I rarely got questions like, Why are you Republican-curious? What drew you to our dating app? What are your family values? What are you looking for in a partner? What are your goals in life?
. . . On our last date, we were walking through a park when I told him we couldn’t keep seeing each other, that I disagreed with most of his beliefs and didn’t align with the future he wanted. Confused, he replied that from his point of view, we actually agreed on most things.

No, I said, we didn’t, which he would know if he’d asked me any questions about myself. He still leaned in and tried to kiss me. We never saw each other again.

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a63915627/political-beliefs-dating-app-experiment/

  • InevitableSwing [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    41·
    2 days ago

    The dems are really awful. What should I do? I know! I’ll lurch towards fascism!

    On the app I’d ultimately go with, I presented myself truthfully, as a Republican-curious woman tired of the Democrats’ hopelessness and constant pivoting during a highly charged election year. I come from a liberal background, I explained in my initial chats with matches, but was open to new perspectives.

    This actually made me laugh…

    I was early to meet another match, Tom*, 27, outside St. Patrick’s Cathedral in Manhattan for a second date. He was already sitting on the steps, wearing a tweed suit and reading a paperback book. A scene right out of a rom-com, if this were Hollywood.

    “I’m not that religious,” he’d told me on our first date. “But I want my future wife to teach our kids biblical values.”

    What follows is predictable as can be.

    As we admired a panel of stained glass, I asked him about the term ‘biblical patriarchy’, popular online among a set of women who call themselves anti-feminist because they are returning to biblical womanhood. “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord,” Tom recited. “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”

    This is Ephesians 5:22-24, which I’d seen cited on TikTok, blogs, and podcasts by Christian nationalists, tradwives, and the men’s rights movement, usually used to justify conforming to gender roles as prescribed by the Bible.

    I asked Tom what he thought a biblical woman even is. “Women should be submissive to their husbands, and some people believe they should be trained,” he said. “It’s about knowing your role in nature. It’s undesirable for women to be too independent. As a man, I want to take care of you, and I believe in that biology. The liberal women I’ve dated emasculate men with their aggressive energy.”

    • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      32·
      2 days ago

      The liberal women I’ve dated emasculate men with their aggressive energy.”

      Lmao dude just admitted that dating liberals made him feel inferior and emasculated by them

      • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        29·
        2 days ago

        Instead of exploring kink in a healthy way, christian shame has made them normalise it so they don’t have to feel ashamed about it being kink, because kink is d*gener*cy and shameful and blah blah blah. It’s not shameful if it’s supposed to be the norm!

      • DragonBallZinn [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        23·
        2 days ago

        I am fucking sick of being told we need to shut up and listen to these dipshits.

        Call me when leftists finally stop being the designated bad guys with no nuance and someone actually wants to understand us. I’ll wait.

    • axont [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      22·
      2 days ago

      This guy should be immediately arrested and forcibly given psychiatric treatment and/or shot because he is a danger to polite society. This man should not be permitted to be within 50 meters of a school.

    • BeanisBrain [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      13·
      2 days ago

      It’s about knowing your role in nature.

      If women’s subordination is so natural than why does it have to be upheld with violence and terror

      “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord,” Tom recited. “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”

      This is Ephesians 5:22-24

      Bunker Boy was right

    • TreadOnMe [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
      13·
      2 days ago

      I love how, despite supposedly reading, he is completely philosophically confused. He believes that God has determined what the correct course of action is, which is determined not through proper faith practice, but through biology and that women who do not conform to this exude an ‘aggressive energy’. Bro literally just repeats what he hears around him, has never had an original thought in his life.