It’s a self loathing thing. It’s not a guarantee that a public phobe is a private phile but if you are all twisted up inside it certainly stokes the fires. They end up trying too hard more often. It’s like one of those things that isn’t always true but it’s true often enough that it ends up looking like a pattern.
My dad’s gay, and I was asking him about this last night. His take is that usually the most virulently homophobic people turn out to be gay.
It’s a self loathing thing. It’s not a guarantee that a public phobe is a private phile but if you are all twisted up inside it certainly stokes the fires. They end up trying too hard more often. It’s like one of those things that isn’t always true but it’s true often enough that it ends up looking like a pattern.