I never really felt much of a connection with this guy, despite sticking it out for over a year with him. Hes very insistent that I take almost 3 hours out of my day to do in person visits and has threatened to charge me as a cancelation if I still demanded virtual, I haven’t felt the ability to be honest with him about larger issues than what I discuss, and frankly I would get nervous to talk to him before a lot of sessions. I had a therapist before that I connected with better, but that was 3 years ago almost and I had to stop when I lost my last job.
Im already in the process of getting back with my past therapist, who seemed much warmer to me. When I had to stop seeing her, i cried, whereas with this guy, I’m nervous he’ll try to talk me out of dropping him.
On the bus to go do it now, send me your good vibes pls
You should know that you have every right to see a different therapist or even ask them if they can refer you to another colleague, and professionally they should accept that. It won’t cause you any harm. It would be natural for them to ask why, and that might help inform their practice in the future- but they should be able to respect your boundaries. If you are frank with them without losing your cool or being insulting it should be fine. Although that is no guarantee they won’t be a jerk, but that is unprofessional and you can cite that if they push back too hard.
There might be a reason they insist on in-person appointments, I know for medical appointments it affects their billing to see patients virtually (often for both for medicare/medicaid and private insurance)
It went fucking horribly! Dude wanted to have basically a full session long conversation analyzing why I wanted to leave, and used my life/relationship situation to insinuate I was a bad patient, and that he went out of his way to respond to that with patience. “You’re only here so you can keep your partner happy and have a roof over your head.” I’m obviously angry, but mostly just shocked that a professional would take a dig at me that way, especislly after 18ish months.
Also yall are getting a copy/paste response cause I wanna make sure everyone who wished me well saw my side of things, and im not thinking straight enough to give individual replies at the moment