I never really felt much of a connection with this guy, despite sticking it out for over a year with him. Hes very insistent that I take almost 3 hours out of my day to do in person visits and has threatened to charge me as a cancelation if I still demanded virtual, I haven’t felt the ability to be honest with him about larger issues than what I discuss, and frankly I would get nervous to talk to him before a lot of sessions. I had a therapist before that I connected with better, but that was 3 years ago almost and I had to stop when I lost my last job.

Im already in the process of getting back with my past therapist, who seemed much warmer to me. When I had to stop seeing her, i cried, whereas with this guy, I’m nervous he’ll try to talk me out of dropping him.

On the bus to go do it now, send me your good vibes pls

      • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        4 months ago

        I think my best one was my school therapist at college and I bet it’s because they were on retainer. I think they’re largely useless unless you’re lonely or need to practice social skills. Psychiatrists are a different matter medicine can help some people.

    • Omegamint [comrade/them, doe/deer]@hexbear.netEnglish
      11·
      4 months ago

      It’s just easy for therapists to cash a check, and actually hard for them to get people to do proper work on themselves. I’ve definitely run into acquaintances where it’s become abundantly clear that whoever they’re seeing is just acting as a shoulder to cry on, and honestly when people first come in to see a therapist that’s generally what they need. The hard shit comes after they stabilize where they often need to do some hard introspection and that’s where these professionals can really fail (and I’m sure some do on purpose), or the person in question just ups and leaves therapy because they aren’t actually willing to do that.

      Lotta respect for the good ones but pop psychology has got people thinking therapy is a lot better than it is and it’s given some pretty shitty people the tools to couch their shitty behavior in professional sounding language.

      Edit:

      Also wanted to make it clear I’m not siding with corgis therapist here, who has really gone in the other direction (I don’t think a therapist should talk to someone like that). Honestly just venting bc personal experiences both with therapy personally and in others