I never really felt much of a connection with this guy, despite sticking it out for over a year with him. Hes very insistent that I take almost 3 hours out of my day to do in person visits and has threatened to charge me as a cancelation if I still demanded virtual, I haven’t felt the ability to be honest with him about larger issues than what I discuss, and frankly I would get nervous to talk to him before a lot of sessions. I had a therapist before that I connected with better, but that was 3 years ago almost and I had to stop when I lost my last job.

Im already in the process of getting back with my past therapist, who seemed much warmer to me. When I had to stop seeing her, i cried, whereas with this guy, I’m nervous he’ll try to talk me out of dropping him.

On the bus to go do it now, send me your good vibes pls

  • ReadFanon [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    14 days ago

    Sounds like you did a fantastic job. It sucks that it went through that shit but you controlled the part that you could control, and you did exceptionally well. That’s all that matters.

    I don’t want to diminish how much it must suck for you right now but you faced a nightmare scenario head-on and came out the other side intact. Yep, it was a big waste of time and money and, yep, a therapist should never act that way but you handled that shit and if there’s a silver lining it might be that if you feel anxious about opening up to a therapist in the future you can look at it from this perspective - what’s the worst that could happen? Because you’ve already been through it. It definitely sucks but you know now that it’s not gonna break you and, with a little luck and some distance from this shitty day, the fear of opening up to a therapist is gonna have much less of a hold on you.

    • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      5·
      14 days ago

      Appreciate it, thanks. I’ll be going back to my old therapist, who I felt much more comfortable talking to. There’s more I can say comparatively between the two, but in summary, I feel like I’m going to a better spot. Additionally, I’ll be going back to someone who specializes in bipolar, where this guy did not.

      Sending love Care-Comrade