37 years young. Tomorrow, I’m finally asking my home physician to send me to a gender identity clinic to assess whether I have dysphoria according to my country’s standards and policies. If my physician does send me there, then within a few years I might get the much needed diagnosis and then I will finally be eligible for HRT.
MEANWHILE.
I have made a list of things that I can start exploring in order to feel more comfortable with the woman within. Gosh… Please excuse my phrasing. I’m so effing closeted. 😅
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Hair removal - booked!!! Going on the 27th.
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Perfumes - planned!!! Trying some out tomorrow.
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Nails - don’t even know where to start. I have NEVER even given these babies a second’s thought. 😭
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Wigs - I have no hair. If and when I get diagnosed, the state will provide a certain amount every year to buy wigs and they will refer me to a professional wig maker as part of the treatment for dysphoria.
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Makeup - no idea where to start. Is there ANY other way than watching YouTube tutorials? Although I totally accept that this probably is the most effective way.
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Clothes - am I just supposed to try on everything I find pretty? 😅🩷🩵🤍
Awesome, it’s great that you’re 1. discovering yourself, 2. planning the next steps and also 3. seek community! You have our support ❤️
I personally feel a bit uncomfortable framing transgenderness as a medical condition that needs to be diagnosed, though I get it on a technical level.
I’m not sure what to make of your “English please. 😭”. Maybe people can link you stuff that’s in another language, if you prefer that.
You’ll hopefully have a lot of fun exploring girly things! Don’t feel pressured to have to enjoy everything, or to be good at everything right from the start, or to educate yourself for hours before giving things a try.
Regular nail polish shouldn’t be to hard to try, but make sure to also get nail polish cleaner/remover. Personally, I noticed my intuition betrayed me, regarding which colors I like. [Note: I honestly don’t have much experience with nail polish, so take my advice with caution]
UV polish is slightly more involved. It gets harder & thus more durable than regular. You can try that out without getting a UV lamp if you simply do it on a sunny day and go outside / to an open window. You might need a base and top coast, so look that up if you wanna try UV.
It’s a big plus if you can try on stuff without having to commit by buying it, like if you have a friend that let’s you try out their nail polish or clothes. Thrift shops / clothing swap events are good to, so you don’t spend much money before figuring out what you like.
I’d love to hear/see updates, whenever you’re comfortable sharing! 🧡
Finally back on a PC and keyboard 😅
What got deleted earlier was, although not in its full glory:
“English please. 😭” was just a really bad joke, trying to imply that makeup, to me, is like a foreign language that I don’t understand.
I can’t stop smiling just by the thought of trying on nail polish! 😆💙 Maybe I’ll check some out tomorrow when I’m also looking for perfumes.
There is a great thrift store where I live with a great selection of clothes that send a great variety of expression and identity! I live in isolation, but there might be one person whom I could ask to lend me, or even hang out with me when I try out, their nail polish. Although I can’t stop wondering what she’ll say when I ask her not to call me a boy.
I wrote such a long reply and accidentally pressed “cancel”. 💔
I guess I’ll just write the most important part for now: thank you so much for your heartwarming response! And thank you for not accepting transgenderness being framed as a medical condition. I easily go along with that jargon because of the hoops I have to jump through to justify myself. I even feel anxious about talking to the physician tomorrow, you know?
Anyhow, thank you for all the great advice!!!🩵
That’s completely valid to feel somewhat anxious about! Luckily, this is no exam, you don’t need to score, you just need to somehow get the point across. You can do this 💪