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What if being too cool to have fun is how I have fun?
Falls under cruel and hurtful, unless it’s internal.
Well if it’s fun for you then you’re too cool for it so you can’t do it.
Aw, shit. :(
And honestly, I enjoy judging people. I just don’t let that interfere with others’ happiness.
HOA’s are a dumb fuck concept and should be abolished.
I’m sorry, my
extrajudicial governmentHOA has found your speech in violation of section 2.46A, and will be issuing you a fine of $3000.Any further acts of unapproved speech retrieved or transmitted into my HOA boundaries will result in additional fines.
I am so glad my neighbourhood does not have an HOA.
I never ever read a positive opinion on them. Plenty of negative opinions though. I wonder how they manage to survive.
I’ve seen people defend them, some shit about lowering property value or making the neighbourhood look bad every time.
Worry about your own fucking house. My property is none of your business if all you dont like about it is how it looks or how it affects your volatile ass investment.
They are great for their initial intent: keeping “undesirable” people out of the neighborhood, or making life extremely difficult for them to stay.
HOAs were a replacement for redlining. They’re great for practicing good ol’ American suburban racism.
The most ironic thing about them is that US-Americans love to yap about their apparent freedom and how in Europe we are oppressed by our governments. But they are seemingly fine with the HOA telling them how to live on THEIR OWN PROPERTY. This will never be not funny lol.
Yeah. US Americans are very much the dumbest Americans.
Basically my motto. There’s nothing I’m “not allowed” to do (legally). I like old stuff, always have. Others may see it as junk. I enjoy fixing things and my house is a mess with projects. Sometimes I don’t finish them. But when i do its great. My yard isnt perfectly manicured becuase I actually hate that. I let dandelions grow until they’re dead, then I mow. I have books all over the place in the house because I read 10 things at once. I have tons of game systems and sit on the floor to play them because I just find that the fun and relaxing way.
People think I’m weird, and I’m glad !
Me and my daughter dressing up as Victorian ladies with our dog in his Victorian suit taking photos at an antique railroad station hurt no one and a bunch of tourists and the railroad museum curator actually loved it. We make the best memories and I have absolutely zero reason to be a normal person
What a lovely thing to have raised your perfect companion in oddness! I love that you did this
Damn, if this were posted on !oldschoolcool@lemmy.world, it would fool me!
They aren’t dolls they are ACTION FIGURES.
Now, someone help me fit this barbie dress on this Transformer.
That’s not the dolls they’re talking about…
I’ve always envied people who are passionately into anything. I worked at a place that made a lot of rocket engines for NASA and the government. There were a lot of people there who had wanted to make rockets or space stuff since they were little kids. Some couldn’t believe they got paid to do what they did.
That was never me. I had a great job and felt lucky to have it, but I was happy enough to retire when I was able to. I just never felt that level of passion about it, or anything really.
Like I know a guy who is so into music that he got a treble clef tattooed on his arm. I’ve never had anything that was such a part of my identity that I wanted a tattoo of it. It must be cool to have that.
Idk, man. There’s a certain vapid hollowness to a lot of the consumerist fan cultures.
Like, I’m not going to complain that you’ve got a desk covered in “I love golf” tchotchkes or bobble heads of your favorite movie character all over your bedroom or Batman’s logo tattooed on your arm. But I’m not going to admire you for it.
Don’t waste your time being cool to have fun
It’s nice not to be so self-conscious that you can’t enjoy yourself and cultivate friends who enjoy the same thing. But sometimes its also nice to do a little bit of introspection when other people are consistently turned off by what you’re doing with all your time and money.
Given how hung up you are with what other people enjoy (it’s sooo gracious of you to not complain to them directly) and your judgement of the “quality” of that enjoyment, maybe you should try a little more of that introspection you seem to admire. As long as they’re not hurting anyone else, their hobbies are theirs. Not everybody needs to be a philosopher for their hobbies to have meaning to them. This post isn’t about YOU approving or accepting of other people’s weird hobbies. It’s about admiring people because of their enthusiasm, regardless of you or anyone else thinks. Focusing on your own judgmental attitudes about those hobbies totally and completely misses the point.
Given how hung up you are with what other people enjoy
I’m just speaking my truth, bro.
That’s my point. Your judgemental “speaking your truth” is antithetical to the entire point of the post. To be sure, it is a paradox of tolerance, but that’s no excuse.
Yeah consumerism can be bad. But not everyone is into weaving baskets from grass.
I do agree a little though, someone with 500 funko pops isn’t doing the environment (or the slaves in China that made them) any favors. But if they enjoy it, do it. 1 billionaires jet flight destroys more than 1 of us ever could in an entire lifetime if we bought 20 funkos a day. Not to mention the running cost of their 10 homes and yachts.
But not everyone is into weaving baskets from grass.
That’s just it, though. When people are convinced that any kind of Arts & Crafts activity is tedious and boring, the reflexively avoid it. And the end result is a reinforced cycle of Shop Therapy, where people want new things in their lives but are too insecure about their own skills or intimidated by the process of artistic creation. So they just buy someone else’s work product. Or some machine’s work product. Or some AI’s work product.
But if they enjoy it, do it.
In my experience, people who are hording collectibles aren’t happy so much as they are remembering a time when they were happy and struggling to recreate that experience.
Idk mixing and recording music is tedious and boring sometimes and I still do it. I paint furniture. I repair cars. The truth of the matter is all of those things involve buying something to do the job. Or fixing your house. Thats just how the world is. You aren’t gonna find shingles and 2x4s and nails out in the woods to gather.
I’m definitely one of those, except my "collectibles " all serve a function. I don’t get things that just sit. If it is sittiitng, I sell it (like my old Atari I never used anymore).
I could probably be better about buying things, but the things I buy enable me to do more. I’m a project person. And, I usually buy used if I ever can.
Definitely better than folks buying endless plastic un repairable junk on amazon that they dont need at all.
Definitely better than folks buying endless plastic un repairable junk on amazon that they dont need at all.
Absolutely.
This is actually fair.
I don’t think it’s fair to expect or demand people love your shit.
I do think it’s fair to ask people who dislike your shit to exercise some discretion in thier engagement. Dropping in just to say “lol that sucks” is something that probably need not be said.
I think this post is just encouraging the latter: not into some harmless hobby? That’s fine, no need to shit on people who are into it.
Hate the sin, not the sinner, though. I also get really upset about consumerist culture, but I try not to take it out on the people who enjoy it. It’s really the capitalists at the top of the chain that are pushing all that crap, and they do it because they love money. If the world were better, and there were more responsible ways to enjoy that sort of thing, I think most people would jump on it.
I try not to take it out on the people who enjoy it.
Like I said, I’m not here to rub my opinions in anyone’s face. I just don’t think reflexively hording shit is the kind of “fun” I’m going applaud someone for engaging in.
No more than watching a guy chug a bottle of vodka or smoke a pack of cigarettes
We don’t see how average people really live represented in popular media. And, on the rare occasion such a thing breaks through, those who strive to meet what is represented in popular media harshly and loudly judge what they see. But, most people recognize something of themselves in it, and remain quiet.
How about the fat nerd with his thrifted electronics he never uses?
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Being judgemental is fine - it’s being judgeverbal that’s cruel and hurtful.
That’s called people watching
My partner is into cycling (gravel), as am I but not to this extent. For the past few months it’s been about 90% of our conversation. It’s very cute, and I’m very happy for them (and know the laser-focus will pass) so I engage with all of it, but man can it be hard some days. 😄 (Also happy it’s a super healthy focus)
I re-started the guitar during Covid, and I’ve played every day since. I’m a guitar guy now.
It turns out “re-starts” is a whole new category of guitar players, a little different than true beginners because they already have some of the basicknowledge.
What’s an ass lawn?
I don’t know, but whatever it is, it must be what they’re referring to when someone says “your ass is grass, and I’m gonna mow it!”
I do that by keeping to myself, having fun when alone listening to music from 70’s, which is the greatest era in music
Hell yeah brother!!
