(speaking here as khemehli, with help from cela)

so i have been well aware of the tropes that trans girls are very submissive and love to receive puppygirl treatment and so forth (sadly often neglecting the existence of enbies).

but i also have recognized that i am not that submissive, so my thinking is that there are surely others who are like me in this regard.

of course while conjecture is fun and all, i wanted some numbers. my methodology was to figure out if my closer transfemme friends (n=4) would let me leash them. a couple of them (n=2) i have already put on a leash in the past, so that leaves the other two.

for the first friend i was thinking “eh, there is a decent chance my conjecture holds true for her but i’m not too sure” and for the second “xe is definitely going to say no”.

yeah turns out i was entirely wrong and they both just went “oh yeah totally!”. so each time i went ahead and grabbed a leash and collar from my purse, approached them, gently fastened the collar around their neck, and then clipped on the leash. it was really really cute n fun heheh (and no not in a sexual way)

as thanks for their contributions to science, each participant was awarded with a yummy chocolate treat hand fed to them (and headpats and praise).

so moral of the story uhh this is clearly not enough data and i need to ask more transfemmes if i can leash them.

yeah thank you for coming to my TED talk 👍

something else funny of note: when making this post, we first put in the title and accidentally hit post never having actually typed out anything. we deleted it seconds later but its still interesting to see how many upvotes it got despite having ZERO content lol

  • sharkweek@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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    7 days ago

    You commented on a thread specifically about kinky stuff, in order to say you don’t like kinky stuff.

    Then you said a bunch of things about kink that show a complete lack of both understanding and respect for others.

    And it’s my fault, apparently?

    Normally I’d say you need to take the stick out of your arse, but in this context maybe you would benefit from having something inserted instead.

    • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      7 days ago

      OP were talking about trans women all liking kinky stuff. As a trans woman I decided to raise my hand in opposition. You are the one who took a shit in it. I’ve not once said that my experience of kink is universal but, you assume if I don’t like it I must be doing it wrong or something. I’m just explaining why I’m not into it.

      Which is: I actually find power dynamics off-putting both in life and the bedroom. I don’t like acting or roll play (this extends to larping). I find using specialist equipment to be a distraction and a hassle which doesn’t add any enjoyment to the experience.

      This doesn’t stem from a lack of knowledge. It is 100% personal taste. It cannot, therefore, be ignorant.

      • sharkweek@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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        7 days ago

        Where did they say it was all trans women?

        You saw someone having fun and decided to piss in their cornflakes, then made sweeping generalisations.

        Not all kinky people role-play, it’s not necessary to use rope, a wand, or a St. Andrew’s Cross, it doesn’t have to take so long that a quick bit of oral sex is definitely preferable, and equally isn’t over so quickly that a slow bit of oral sex is definitely preferable.

        OP made no claims against you, nor did they claim they were speaking about all trans women. I’ll be honest, up until this reply I genuinely thought you were a man trying to talk down to women.

        As a woman, I’m sure you’re aware that a condescending tone is something to be stamped out when it’s encountered in a place that should be a safe space.