Communism has to emerge out of pre-existing social conditions. There is no point fantasising about a revolution that’s going to abolish families, for example.
Western societies are not necessarily all socially liberal, but that is the predominant culture. For centuries now, people have become progressively more tolerant. A majority of the non-boomer population at least have a strong “live and let live” attitude towards religion, drug use, sexual preference, immigration, sex work, etc. And Boomers are more tolerant than their parents generation too.
Some Western communists seem to have a disturbing enthusiasm for enforcing what they see as a good or moral lifestyle on other people. Ignoring any theoretical pragmatic necessities, the aim of a communist society is to guarantee freedom from economic exploitation, rather than impose additional moralities. And anyway, it seems an obvious strategic failure to go against the current of the time, and associate communism with social conservatism. Most social conservatives are going to be inherently anti-communist because communism is a poor vehicle for realising the kind of society they want.
Obviously personal freedoms are a secondary concern to ending exploitation and imperialism. However, it may not seem that way to liberals. Associating communism with social conservatism makes it anathema to the liberal portion of society and no more attractive to the conservative side. It is a complete own goal.
ok i’ll bite and here’s my take: i think this weird undercurrent of “socially conservative communism” is mostly coming from the so-called “MAGA communists” and “patriotic socialists” who think that communism can only be for strong manlymen workers that spend all day sweating at the smoke and sparks factory and need to appeal to them. they keep pushing this to separate their reactionary “communism” from standard social progressivism to contrast against your average left liberal and show the MAGA types that “SEE, WE AREN"T LIKE THOSE WOKES”.
so in my opinion this is mostly an artificial construct being pushed by some weirdos with outsized influence because they are being funded by the coffers of Larouchites, or as a way to disrupt the increasing radicalization of the younger generations who are finding communism and socialism increasingly appealing (at least as polls seem to suggest). it’s a tactic to make them associate communism with social conservatism and drive them back to the center, either being done deliberately or as a byproduct of a different agenda.