Communism has to emerge out of pre-existing social conditions. There is no point fantasising about a revolution that’s going to abolish families, for example.
Western societies are not necessarily all socially liberal, but that is the predominant culture. For centuries now, people have become progressively more tolerant. A majority of the non-boomer population at least have a strong “live and let live” attitude towards religion, drug use, sexual preference, immigration, sex work, etc. And Boomers are more tolerant than their parents generation too.
Some Western communists seem to have a disturbing enthusiasm for enforcing what they see as a good or moral lifestyle on other people. Ignoring any theoretical pragmatic necessities, the aim of a communist society is to guarantee freedom from economic exploitation, rather than impose additional moralities. And anyway, it seems an obvious strategic failure to go against the current of the time, and associate communism with social conservatism. Most social conservatives are going to be inherently anti-communist because communism is a poor vehicle for realising the kind of society they want.
Obviously personal freedoms are a secondary concern to ending exploitation and imperialism. However, it may not seem that way to liberals. Associating communism with social conservatism makes it anathema to the liberal portion of society and no more attractive to the conservative side. It is a complete own goal.
Tailism, you know, when some small socialist or communist group things, “Hey, if we pal around with the racists, homophobes, transphobes, biggots a.k.a fascists (which will wind up with those groups thrown under the bus) we’ll have a large enough section of the population to achieve Socialism or Communism.” Failing to realize that all that would happen is that their movement would either be absorbed into the larger fascist movement or as soon as they finished killing off the blacks/browns, LGBTQIA+, actual communists and socialists, their own people would be cut out and destroyed with as much compassion as a doctor deals with a cancerous tumor.