• ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world
    14·
    1 year ago

    My problem is I cannot initiate.

    If you come up to me and start talking I can engage and keep things going for the most part but if you expect me to start the conversation it’s gonna be a quiet time lol

  • _number8_@lemmy.world
    7·
    1 year ago

    hand to god, i’ve never understood the appeal of hanging out. oh you just sit around, except now you have to keep a conversation going?

    i remember once in 4th grade my parents forced me to call another kid and schedule a playdate. it was agonizing

    • pfannkuchen_gesicht
      16·
      1 year ago

      with the right people the conversation just flows effortlessly and with others you just do activities together.

      • SnowBunting@lemmy.ml
        8·
        1 year ago

        This. There are some coworkers I really can’t just chat with. Then there ar some we just hit it off and we can chat for hours.

    • seitanic@lemmy.sdf.org
      8·
      1 year ago

      When I used to hang out, we would watch movies or play video games. I mean, we’d chat, too, but it wasn’t like a long conversation, usually.

    • LinkOpensChest.wav
      8·
      1 year ago

      It’s a good video that addresses a lot of misconceptions. I do believe I’m an introvert, but I also see a lot of people greatly misunderstanding introversion/extroversion.

      One part of the video that really hit home for me is the part where he talks about having a purpose. I can speak in front of large crowds because I’m there with a defined purpose, whereas I’ve never gotten used to small talk. This became really obvious back when I was in a band. People would talk to me after the show at the table and assume I was the same person I was during our performance, whereas in a way that was just a role I played, but it was comfortable for me because I was there with a purpose. It’s not this alone that defines introversion/extroversion, but I feel like a lot of people could benefit from understanding this. It’s why most of the friends I make are centered around shared hobbies and interests.

      I usually don’t click YouTube links, but this was good.

    • _number8_@lemmy.world
      7·
      1 year ago

      this shit is so fucking obnoxious. if ‘introvert’ basically functions as a preferred positive label for people with social anxiety [ie ‘special needs’ instead of the r-word], fine. people with social anxiety ARE VERY LIKELY to be introverts because anxiety causes you to exert excess energy. having social anxiety shouldn’t disqualify you from being an introvert, that makes no fucking sense.

      also lol this dude has another video called ‘Stop Being A Low Value Man’. i rest my case

      • Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml
        3·
        1 year ago

        If you ever find yourself linking a video from a fascist grifter, you need to log off for a year and rethink your life.

        EDIT: Oof I should have looked before posting. Healthygamer intentionally uses that kind of language to reach people who would otherwise/have already fallen into the fascist griftersphere. He’s very much not a part of that pipeline, quite the opposite actually.

      • pigup@lemmy.world
        1·
        1 year ago

        He is a licensed therapist and a superb communicator. He is operating on the actual technical definitions of those words in psychology (not what people on the Internet feel they should mean). I don’t know the source of your anger or your need to sound opinionated in the Internet, but it seems to me that you might benefit from watching a few of his videos. Take care homie ✌️.