Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?
I don’t think, that there’s a certain type of environment, but some combinations of environments, character traits, and maybe just events in life.
What I noticed is, that incels fundamentally lack the ability to see other people as people, but more as automatons, NPCs. You manipulate levers and dials in a certain way and get a predictable result. To me, that sounds a bit autistic. Most people who have that trait in one form or another (I’d include myself), learn that this is not actually the case and humans are in fact a bit more complex.
But if you don’t learn that and then end up in a life situation, where you are sexually “underserved” (which is very likely for autistic people, ask me how I know), but desperately want love, but also don’t understand, that you’re might be the problem, I guess there’s a chance, that you could become vulnerable to that mindset.
On the other hand, there’s the loudmouths of the movement, who I personally suspect to just be socially incompetent narcissists. They can’t fathom that someone doesn’t want them, so they’ll create a narrative, why everyone else is at fault.