Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?
I had incel like behaviour for a while when I was younger I had a pretty normal family and upbringing, but I spent a lot of time online I really resonated with the “nice guys” memes of the late 2000s - I genuinly believed that I was really nice and that no one saw it because they were “sluts” (which they totally weren’t and it’s shocking that I thought that) and that they only liked guys who were sporty I was good in school, I got good grades and I think I leaned into the trope shown in media where the smart guy is always a jerk, so that didn’t help I had nerdy hobbies too and would assume women in those spaces were fake nerds, when really they were more nerdy than me!
I’m so glad I matured out of that headspace, I hate the person I was - but tldr I think the nice guy memes were a big influence, and while they’re not as widespread now, they are on some corners of the Internet