Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?
How about the appearance, I believe that would be much more relevant.
It’s not really, in my experience. That’s a very common thing for incels to focus on in their forums, but if you actually talk to most women, a good personality can be much more attractive than appearance. Appearance helps, but it’s not the only thing. Focus on dressing well, proper hygiene, and developing kindness (not nice-guy niceness), and you will already be so far ahead of the game you have no idea.
I actually recall talking with some girls. I know it’s anecdotal, but many of them explicitly said that they prefer appearance to personality. Some girls even said height-elevating shoes is what they hate the most. (And they care a lot about height)
How old were they, by chance? Most women I know are old enough to have learned that looks are not everything. I’m sure men learn the same as they mature. Of course, there are assholes everywhere, which is why personality is so important.
If you find someone you like and they have a good personality, hold onto them tight. It’s worth so much more. Lust fades, love you grow together lasts and lasts.
They were 19 years old IIRC.