Even with a good career and all the “adult milestones” I don’t feel like an actual adult. I feel like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing. Anyone else experience this?

  • RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Congratulations!

    By pondering those things and asking the questions that you did, you are now officially an adult!

    Nobody knows what we’re doing. And we’re all just bouncing around and slamming into experiences like a bunch of dopes.

    Eventually, you’re going to bump into some folks that just sorta stick. They’re going to like some of the same things that you like and be interesting in a multitude of ways. You’re going to find that life gets a little easier when you’ve got some friends to help spread it around.

    It’s life. It’s weird and serious and silly and sometimes pretty sad. Hold on tight and enjoy the ride.

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      1 year ago

      That’s part of it but I think there’s a bit more than that.

      Getting older I see a clear development among my acquaintances and friends. The ones I would call “real” adults, they dedicate their lives to something that gives it meaning. Some set big goals and got involved in government, some regularly volunteer, some dedicate their lives to ‘simply’ providing as best they can for their kids and family.

      For me that is the mark of an adult. Not your competence or your intelligence but what drives you outside just your own desires.