I got to imagine a big part of self improvement is being less wrong and being less wrong would probably lead to more enriching relationships and activities than if you say around in old, destructive habits while pushing everyone away with your shitty decision making
Exactly. If you want to be liked, you have to make an effort to be likeable.
I guess the trick about changing your behavior is that people don’t see things you aren’t doing anymore. But they’re also keeping an eye out for it, so anything you do that bears even a passing resemblance is conflated with destructive behavior.
I got to imagine a big part of self improvement is being less wrong and being less wrong would probably lead to more enriching relationships and activities than if you say around in old, destructive habits while pushing everyone away with your shitty decision making
Exactly. If you want to be liked, you have to make an effort to be likeable.
I guess the trick about changing your behavior is that people don’t see things you aren’t doing anymore. But they’re also keeping an eye out for it, so anything you do that bears even a passing resemblance is conflated with destructive behavior.