I know a red flag is boundary-stepping over sexual and physical boundaries. Because that’s called grooming. And that if I’m uncomfortable don’t give them grace to stop by themselves, stand your ground immediately and leave the situation. Always say no, and literally run away if I have to.
Another red flag is if they buy you gifts without you asking, and they start saying you owe them favors for these gifts you didn’t even ask for. It can escalate to many things like staying when they’re do something abusive because they say you owe them anything they state you do. Sex has been demanded of me this way when I refused to have sex. So leave at once if this starts.
Is there anything you would add to this?
Look out for narcissists, people threatening to break up or hurt themselves, people trying to control you.
CW: SA, suicide threat
spoiler
One guy threatened to commit suicide if I didn’t have sex with them. An attorney told me this is a method of SA called coercion.
Everyone who gets this threat needs to let this kind of guy commit suicide.
Looking back I really don’t think they were suicidal at all. I think they were just trying to control me.